Wife bought a car for stepdaughter against my wishes…

[dysgenic]

Originally Posted by rego00123

am I responsible for my extended family and how they have decided to live, structure and run their lives?


If so, I was not aware I was.

If I had people staying with me, it's a special circumstance I would have no reason to be militant over enforcing my house rules on to them unless it interfered with the people in my homes daily business and lives negatively.

You're trying to correlate two completely separate circumstances together with this example.

The problem with your argument is that in the case where you are responsible for the 'guests' (children), you also have no reason to be militant about this sort of thing.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by ClaraC

Ok. So I really don't get this thing about imposing curfews on adults.

For those who say my house my rules, if you had extended family coming in for say, a wedding or a high school reunion, etc. would you impose a curfew on them? Would you say if you're staying here, it's 11 p.m. or you can stay at a hotel?

That's different, and you know it. Give me a break.

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by dysgenic

The problem with your argument is that in the case where you are responsible for the 'guests' (children), you also have no reason to be militant about this sort of thing.

Are we speaking of children or adults?

You're confusing things further with this narrative.

Children AND adults follow the rules of the house they are in or stay where they are.

It's showing respect for those who shelter you and an understanding that you should be grateful and not take others hospitality for granted.

I would do the same as an adult in another mans home if I had to stay within it. It's not my home, I am a guest and as a guest I respect the home I am within or I stay elsewhere to avoid issues that may come with my lack of respect towards it.

Unless I have a spefic or immediate reason to police other people's children behavior or actions, I have zero reasons to do so.
If they create a large enough or continued problem they go home or begin to follow the house rules as to not disturb the running of the household anymore.

I take on a subsidiary care giver role, however i am not their disciplinarian or their parental figure. I have zero interest in harboiring those who would cause a purposful distribution to my home and its not my place to correct their behavior for them unless it's going to harm them or others in the process.

What I do have power over is telling them they are not alllowed to be in my home anymore and the conditions applied to why this may be.

[ellie]

Originally Posted by Uncle Bully

Uh oh OP...the Sisterhood is circling the wagons! Get out now while the going is good!

Sounds like a good idea.

[AprilFlowers17]

Originally Posted by rego00123

Are we speaking of children or adults?

You're confusing things further with this narrative.

Children AND adults follow the rules of the house they are in or stay where they are.

It's showing respect for those who shelter you and an understanding that you should be grateful and not take others hospitality for granted.

I would do the same as an adult in another mans home if I had to stay within it. It's not my home, I am a guest and as a guest I respect the home I am within or I stay elsewhere to avoid issues that may come with my lack of respect towards it.

Unless I have a spefic or immediate reason to police other people's children behavior or actions, I have zero reasons to do so.
If they create a large enough or continued problem they go home or begin to follow the house rules as to not disturb the running of the household anymore.

I take on a subsidiary care giver role, however i am not their disciplinarian or their parental figure. I have zero interest in harboring those who would cause a purposeful distribution to my home and its not my place to correct their behavior for them unless it's going to harm them or others in the process.

What I do have power over is telling them they are not allowed to be in my home anymore and the conditions applied to why this may be.

^^^^This.

I'm above the legal drinking age and waited a long time to get here....so, I wouldn't appreciate someone telling me when I can and can't come and go as I want to - EXCEPT when I'm staying at THEIR house. The "My house, My rules" rule applies when you're staying, sleeping at and eating in someone ELSE'S house.

But then again, that's not a problem for me because I know how to conduct myself at all times - especially when I'm at someone ELSE'S house. If I DON'T like the rules of the house, I can sleep and stay ELSEWHERE....