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I think the amount of evidence we've collected over the centuries is sufficient to attribute certain characteristic to humans. But I suppose we can agree to disagree.
Poor people enter into happy relationships, too. Have you excluded that from your data set?
I think we choose our partners according to what's available to us.
What's wrong with that?
I mean, I'd love to hook up with Jessica Alba, but poor me, I have to settle for an amazing woman who loves the hell outta me and would do anything for my happiness. It really does suck to be not rich, and have to settle for the left overs. I feel ya, man.
I think that problem is studies like this can inspire a false behavior that attempt to manipulate women rather than letting them see the real me.
I have seen much the same thing with women putting on false fronts to gain a mans approval and later find the real girl is far different.
If a girl is honest up front about things, I have the opportunity to decide whether I have any attachment to that thing that bothers her . Where as if she has said nothing and bails out, he is not given the opportunity to make a decision or even know what it is that there was a problem to her .
Some people want some one honest enough to share things, that they them selves don't realize is a problem . Not to say that your going to fix some one ,however if they have the humility to accept positive feed back, that says a lot about the person .Of course if all your offering criticism that doesn't build a relationship at all. If you are too sensitive/ego centric to accept advise ,you really should be living alone .
Last. I have a friend that speaks to me in ways that attempt to make me think she agrees with every thing I say or knows what I might have chosen to do. "I thought your be doing that". After a while those phrases are not believable. And paying very close to her conversations with others ,issues she agrees with me on are answered very differently with other people . I realize that this avoids an argument however it leaves me to wonder about so many other things we talk about. she may or may not be pretending to agree on.
Anyway, I don't know what your status is, but I hope you find someone soon (assuming you're looking) if that is the case. It took me nearly a decade of dating, meetups, hook ups, etc., to finally find this one. Lots of pain and agonizing in that time about what I was doing wrong, what I needed to do better, etc.
At the end of the day, it ended up being sheer timing and luck. We were both out at a singles Meetup with our friends (we were the "wingmen") not expecting much, and we ended up meeting through her roommate, who I had hung back with and chatted with because he was a fellow dude and we were both bored.
Long story short, we're getting married in September. Persistence is key, as it is with almost everything in life.
Anyway, I don't know what your status is, but I hope you find someone soon (assuming you're looking) if that is the case. It took me nearly a decade of dating, meetups, hook ups, etc., to finally find this one. Lots of pain and agonizing in that time about what I was doing wrong, what I needed to do better, etc.
At the end of the day, it ended up being sheer timing and luck. We were both out at a singles Meetup with our friends (we were the "wingmen") not expecting much, and we ended up meeting through her roommate, who I had hung back with and chatted with because he was a fellow dude and we were both bored.
Long story short, we're getting married in September. Persistence is key, as it is with almost everything in life.
I'm glad you found someone. Assuming you've had other serious relationships, what makes you believe that this one is different or will be more lasting?
I'm glad you found someone. Assuming you've had other serious relationships, what makes you believe that this one is different or will be more lasting?
Thank you!
It's a different feeling from the girls I dated before. Imagine dating your best friend. That's the best I can describe it. That didn't just happen overnight. It took some time to cultivate that relationship and become as close as we have. But that's all part of the process, and the key is that it was able to happen. I didn't have the same success or progress with other girls I had dated. That's why this one is different.
Now, I'm not going to blow smoke up your rear end and tell you that this will be everlasting love. I have no idea what the circumstances may be in 20, 30, 40, 50+ years. I certainly hope we'll be together, based on what I know and feel now. I'd be absolutely devastated if she weren't in my life tomorrow. But, you know, as a pragmatist, you have to be aware that things can always change.
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