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when I was dating decades ago, I always preferred an inexpensive, short, first date: coffee or a happy hour drink. that way neither party felt any obligations or pressure if it didn't work out. If there were more dates after that, I almost always insisted on alternating the tab for the dates between us for the same reason. both people being financially invested in the dating process is only fair.
This doesn't bother me. Would this be an example of a "snowflake"? If you are buying you get to pick where you are buying. So I spend $25 dollars to have dinner company. We chat, I get to meet someone new. If interesting we do it again and if not, well, no big loss.
Men happily pay for dinner for the hope of something extra afterwards.
I dated a woman for awhile. Really enjoyed her company. It didn't work because of distance and neither of us were in a position to rectify that. I paid on our first date. She ended up paying for the second. I didn't expect it but she noted that there wouldn't have been a second if I hadn't paid for the first. I wasn't offended. No snowflakery.
If there had been no second, I still had a nice evening on the first.
This doesn't bother me. Would this be an example of a "snowflake"? If you are buying you get to pick where you are buying. So I spend $25 dollars to have dinner company. We chat, I get to meet someone new. If interesting we do it again and if not, well, no big loss.
Men happily pay for dinner for the hope of something extra afterwards.
I dated a woman for awhile. Really enjoyed her company. It didn't work because of distance and neither of us were in a position to rectify that. I paid on our first date. She ended up paying for the second. I didn't expect it but she noted that there wouldn't have been a second if I hadn't paid for the first. I wasn't offended. No snowflakery.
If there had been no second, I still had a nice evening on the first.
It bothers me. I don't want someone dating me just because they're getting a meal out of it. If said person is seeing if we have some chemistry, that's one thing. But if she's only going with me for a meal, she's using me. It doesn't matter if I get to pick the place. This is one reason I'm super picky. I don't like dealing with people who only want to use me. That let's me know I'm not valued as a person. Why be with someone who thinks of you that way?
All men need to do is learn to stand up for themselves. Have a little self respect.
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