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I'm starting this thread in conjunction with ThisTown123's thread titled, "Do people look for petty reasons not to date?" Thought it might be enlightening to see what some of those 'petty' reasons are.
There's only 2 rules: I'm looking for 5 'reasons' (or 'turn offs) that have NOTHING to do with physical appearance. (unless you say something like, "(S)he's beautiful and KNOWS it"
This can include OLD, but I'm mostly talking about IRL.
I'll start the thread off by giving you my own 'top 5', not in any particular order.
1. Someone who claims to know about a topic--and obviously doesn't--and thinks you're "stupid" for not agreeing with them.
2. Someone who shows no consideration for others (spits on the ground, let's the door slam in your face, cuts in front of you in a line, etc...)
3. Someone who has an angry negative attitude. You've heard them before...
4. Someone who can only talk about ONE thing, and has no interest in talking about anything else.
5. Someone who drops "F-bombs" in every other sentence.
Those are mine.
What are YOURS?
Let's see how "petty" we are! (I don't expect this thread to get a lot of air play!)
I don't consider this above items to be "petty" in my opinion, they seem pretty valid.
A few petty things I suppose are the following:
Excessive chewing of gum, smacking on it.
Excessively into fashion, ie, a fashionista.
Excessively into "girl power" issues
Excessively into "woke" or social justice issues, I mean to the point that everything is a battle, all of the time.
I suppose those are petty I guess, I'll probably come up with more later.
I'm gonna put this out there as a bisexual woman, but I was thinking, "how do men deal with this?"
I was listening to a podcast, they were interviewing a very intelligent female historian that I like, which is why I was there, but the podcast itself (I'd never listened before and won't be doing so in the future, I think) was conducted by a few women, regularly... And all of the host women have this thing going on with their voices that was like nails on a chalkboard to me. ALL OF THEM.
When I was a teenager, we would refer to it as "Valley Girl" I guess. It's this, you expect them to say, "Like oh. my. god." every other sentence, where the voice goes up like a question at the end of statements that are not questions... Gah!
"We? as like...white womennn? Have to like, stop? And check? Our priviiilegge?" *shudder* Nope. Nope, nope, nope.
Petty or not, I could not date someone who talks like that. Sorry, ladies, if that is any of you, but this east coast raised gal can't hang.
A Valley girl is a socioeconomic, linguistic, and youth subcultural stereotype and stock character originating during the 1980s: any materialistic upper-middle-class young woman, associated with unique vocal and California dialect features, from the Los Angeles commuter communities of the San Fernando Valley.
Oh, I've met quite a few of them in LA, and let me tell you, if they are hot enough, many of us guys don't mind it all that much, especially when we are young and we don't have much going between our ears, ourselves, yet.
A Valley girl is a socioeconomic, linguistic, and youth subcultural stereotype and stock character originating during the 1980s: any materialistic upper-middle-class young woman, associated with unique vocal and California dialect features, from the Los Angeles commuter communities of the San Fernando Valley.
Oh, I've met quite a few of them in LA, and let me tell you, if they are hot enough, many of us guys don't mind it all that much, especially when we are young and we don't have much going between our ears, ourselves, yet.
There you have it, Sporkie; "petty" and "insufferable" are in the eye of the beholder.
I'm gonna put this out there as a bisexual woman, but I was thinking, "how do men deal with this?"
I was listening to a podcast, they were interviewing a very intelligent female historian that I like, which is why I was there, but the podcast itself (I'd never listened before and won't be doing so in the future, I think) was conducted by a few women, regularly... And all of the host women have this thing going on with their voices that was like nails on a chalkboard to me. ALL OF THEM.
When I was a teenager, we would refer to it as "Valley Girl" I guess. It's this, you expect them to say, "Like oh. my. god." every other sentence, where the voice goes up like a question at the end of statements that are not questions... Gah!
"We? as like...white womennn? Have to like, stop? And check? Our priviiilegge?" *shudder* Nope. Nope, nope, nope.
Petty or not, I could not date someone who talks like that. Sorry, ladies, if that is any of you, but this east coast raised gal can't hang.
The uptalking combined with a vocal fry should be illegal. More men are uptalking lately too. Many are professionals in the media. It is certainly an incorrect way of speaking. If you were to transcribe exactly as they are speaking it there would be question marks after the sentences or after words which are not really questions. So it is blatantly wrong but they do it anyway.
A Valley girl is a socioeconomic, linguistic, and youth subcultural stereotype and stock character originating during the 1980s: any materialistic upper-middle-class young woman, associated with unique vocal and California dialect features, from the Los Angeles commuter communities of the San Fernando Valley.
Oh, I've met quite a few of them in LA, and let me tell you, if they are hot enough, many of us guys don't mind it all that much, especially when we are young and we don't have much going between our ears, ourselves, yet.
I grew up in the heart of that time, back in the 80s and it annoy me, yes, a raging hormone filled teen and i didn't like it.
I'm low 50s now and whenever I hear grown women talking like little girls or valley girl talk, vocal fry, the uprising vocal question mark thing, if you are pulling that nonsense you're an idiot. In my book anyway.
A Valley girl is a socioeconomic, linguistic, and youth subcultural stereotype and stock character originating during the 1980s: any materialistic upper-middle-class young woman, associated with unique vocal and California dialect features, from the Los Angeles commuter communities of the San Fernando Valley.
I once went on a first date with a pretty girl who had a (natural) very high-pitched voice and (affected) strong valley girl accent and mannerisms. Longest 45 minutes of my life. I was thinking of that experience when I wrote "annoying voice" in my earlier post in this thread.
I once went on a first date with a pretty girl who had a (natural) very high-pitched voice and (affected) strong valley girl accent and mannerisms. Longest 45 minutes of my life. I was thinking of that experience when I wrote "annoying voice" in my earlier post in this thread.
Voice means more than we think. If a man has a great voice it can be very attractive.
Voice means more than we think. If a man has a great voice it can be very attractive.
Apparently high-pitched voices in women is hot, while low, deeply reverberating voices in men is what women find to be hot, like Vin Diesel's voice in The Chronicles of Riddick, or Morgan Freeman's voice, and I kinda think it's true. I remember having a French classmate, very cute, very pretty, reminded me of a young Natalie Portman, and she was very quiet in nature.
It was only when she spoke for the first time that I realized why she didn't talk much.
Voice deeper than a world war I drill sarge.
I stopped being attracted to her right there
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(I don't expect this thread to get a lot of air play!)
