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Why do you think he made up a excuse and left the date early ?
I guess this makes more sense than what I was going to say. It could explain his "then, what's the point of this date?" comment. Apparently, he had expectations beyond a simple get-to-know-you date. I think you should be glad he removed himself from your presence. He was being creepy and inappropriate in a number of ways.
He asked you if you get a lot of compliments, because he has you on a pedestal. Now you know what that feels like. It's not comfortable.
So I finally went on a date with this guy, that’s been chasing me for 2years. We were actively talking for five months, everyday before we met . He would beg me to hang out but, I wasn’t really into him. Plus I saw some red flags, so I was skeptical about meeting him. Anyways I finally did because I felt bad, and I was staring to like him a little. So we agree to meet somewhere, we finally see each other and he hugs me. We start walking around this beautiful park, don’t worry I chose this date. We come to a bench and we sit down and talk. He opens the conversation by saying, “sorry I’m just checking you out “. I reply saying it’s okay. He told me to come closer, we start cuddling and talking about are day. For some reason I couldn’t look him in the eye? We head back to his car, he starts rubbing my thighs. I then start fixing my purse, as I look up he’s giving me this intense soul stare ? Then he rubs my face with his finger and tells me I’m pretty. He also looked at me and asked if I get a lot of compliments? Anyways I told him I was moving soon like across the state, he looked pretty upset, but he already knew this. He then stated then what’s the point of all of this ? This was a pretty awkward date for me ….. he kept asking why I was shy? I wasn’t shy at all, it was my first time meeting him so I wasn’t going to be all up under him, even though we were talking for a while. Then suddenly he ends the date early. Says he had to go help a friend, he kept asking was I upset that he was leaving ?? I said no, he drives me back to my car, again he’s rubbing my legs while he drives. Drops me off and I never hear from him again ??? Which is fine it was pretty awkward?
What do you guys think of all of this ?
You found out he's not a match for you. He seems kind of weird, expecting something else from you it would seem. Glad you're moving away; it sounds like it might be good for you to get away from him. Definitely some strange behavior he is exhibiting.
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Originally Posted by Jakie_heart
Why do you think he made up a excuse and left the date early ?
The date wasn't turning out the way he wanted it to.
As for why he asked whether you got compliments, it seemed to me that that was just his weird way of trying to talk with you. Yeah, you were spot-on with the red flag hunch. Again, be glad you're moving.
This guy has an abnormal fixation on you. And he's got something a little wrong with his mental wiring. This is not normal or appropriate behavior. (Can you spell: B-O-U-N-D-A-R-Y I-S-S-U-E-S ?)
Be glad you're moving. As to his question re: what the point of the date was, since you're moving, you should have turned and asked him the same question. Why was he pressing for a date, knowing you're moving away? Why was he asking you that question?
I guess the moral of the story is: don't go out with guys who persistently beg and whimper and wheedle for a date, and don't go out with guys who show red flags before you've even gone out with them. Trust your instincts.
Yeah, this guy sounds like Creepy McCreepface. Good riddance. He's lucky you didn't clock him, first date, rubbing your thighs. Very inappropriate dood, very poor boundaries. Creepy.
Just reading the initial post made me feel icky. I'd be really creeped out by that behavior. The guy needs to learn some communication skills, but it doesn't seem like he will.
I guess this makes more sense than what I was going to say. It could explain his "then, what's the point of this date?" comment. Apparently, he had expectations beyond a simple get-to-know-you date. I think you should be glad he removed himself from your presence. He was being creepy and inappropriate in a number of ways.
He asked you if you get a lot of compliments, because he has you on a pedestal. Now you know what that feels like. It's not comfortable.
I Never thought of the whole pedestal thing?
He also rubbed my face with his finger and said “your really pretty you should be more confident “.
I was like What I am confident?
I guess this makes more sense than what I was going to say. It could explain his "then, what's the point of this date?" comment. Apparently, he had expectations beyond a simple get-to-know-you date. I think you should be glad he removed himself from your presence. He was being creepy and inappropriate in a number of ways.
He asked you if you get a lot of compliments, because he has you on a pedestal. Now you know what that feels like. It's not comfortable.
He also was like, the first date doesn’t need to be long because it’s just are first meet. I was like that’s fine I mean if you were so uninterested or wanted to leave , why are you touching me and staring into my soul…
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