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That's a long shot form here, but if you're looking for theories:
my guess is that he was very interested in you and was kinda hoping that this would blow up very quickly, but it didn't, and then you mentioned you were leaving anyway.
If he seemed upset despite having known about it before hand, I'd say this suggests he was hoping that because of him, once you guys would've met, that would've changed your mind. Now he had spent this time with you in person and tried his best to show his interest but that didn't seem to change your mind at all, so he started trying to play some game like being independent and detached.
Because he's not actually independent or detached, and because he's not very good at faking it, he was basically constantly checking whether his tactics were working. Which, I suppose, analogously as counterproductive as constantly opening the oven's door to check if the cake is looking good...
Then he figured out it wasn't going to happen and moved on.
That being said, straight to persistent cuddling / tigh rubbing on the first date, despite you not responding or even looking at him?
I mean, is this... the usual drill? Guess I'm even more out of the loop than I thought about how forward I'm supposed to get with my dates.
To answer your question, what happened was it was a strange first date.
What is even more strange is you went out with someone that had red flags.
You aren't interested in him but you are letting him touch you. What is more strange - you doing these things or him trying one on? Of the two of you he seems more normal.
To answer your question, what happened was it was a strange first date.
What is even more strange is you went out with someone that had red flags.
You aren't interested in him but you are letting him touch you. What is more strange - you doing these things or him trying one on? Of the two of you he seems more normal.
That’s very rude. Um no all of this kinda caught me of guard
You should not have met in a park where there are few people, I assume. When he started to cuddle you, you let him, maybe you were afraid? Now he thought you liked him and in the car he escalated and started to rub your leg and stroking your face with his fingers. He asked you if you get many compliments bc he saw you pretty. Yes, he thought he was going to get lucky, but then you said you were moving away anyway. Now he understood that it is not going his way and decided to end the date.
You give the impression that you were taken by surprise, even disappointed, that he ended the date, you have so many questions. Did you like him? It sounds yes.
Because he thought he was going to get lucky and he didn't.
That's what it sounds like to me.
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I mean, is this... the usual drill? Guess I'm even more out of the loop than I thought about how forward I'm supposed to get with my dates.
No, really, it's not, and you're not out of the loop. Don't take a lesson from the creep who rubs thighs on first dates. Confident and well-boundaried -- that's the ticket.
It wasn't a strange first date, it was just a creepy first date. Been there; they happen all the time. Felt lucky to have dodged a bullet.
Guy was angling to get into your pants.
Reminds me of this one date I had a lifetime ago. Guy took me out to dinner. After I wouldn't let him into my apartment after the date, he sent me a little nasty note which read: "Do you think I paid for that dinner for nothing?" I offered to reimburse.
It wasn't a strange first date, it was just a creepy first date. Been there; they happen all the time. Felt lucky to have dodged a bullet.
Guy was angling to get into your pants.
Reminds me of this one date I had a lifetime ago. Guy took me out to dinner. After I wouldn't let him into my apartment after the date, he sent me a little nasty note which read: "Do you think I paid for that dinner for nothing?" I offered to reimburse.
So he chased me for 2years when I finally give him the time of the day, and talk to him for 5months. While he begs me to go on a date, was just a plan for him , to get in my pants ?
So he chased me for 2years when I finally give him the time of the day, and talk to him for 5months. While he begs me to go on a date, was just a plan for him , to get in my pants ?
He may very well have wanted more than that, but what seems pretty clear is that he was aching for your interactions to get physical in the very short term.
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