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Romantic rivals are everywhere. The more attractive your s/o is, the more competition you will have throughout your life. If you don't want any competition then date somebody less appealing. If you truly think she might run off with that other guy then talk to her about it.
My GF and I work at the same company and we are both on an informal joke group chat with about 18 other people. Almost every time this other guy (let's call him Bob) posts something there my GF responds with some variation of a laughing emoji or a comment. When I post anything, she hardly ever responds. I know this sounds silly, believe me, but there's more to it. Before we started seeing each other, she would react to almost everything I posted but now that's changed. I'm trying to go through possible reasons for this. I don't think I would be thinking too much about it if it wasn't for the last thing ... About a month or two ago, we were taking a walk and chatting and the topic of kids came up. I have dark hair and she has blue eyes, so she said "our child will be perfect, with dark hair and blue eyes, like Bob". She told me she didn't mean it the way I took it up but in my mind perfect = dark hair and blue eyes = Bob. So in isolation, each of these things doesn't sound bad, but I just don't want to ignore signs I should have paid attention to and then deal with crap later down the line. Opinions? Advice?
Pay attention to your gut instinct on this one. Red flags all over.
OP, just going by what little info you've posted, I'd say, that she laughed at your jokes before you two became an item, but then stopped, and started laughing at another guy's jokes, because to her, it's the thrill of the chase. Once she'd landed you, the thrill was over, so she went after a fresh challenge.
There are guys who do this too. Probably time to move on.
I agree completely w/ the above. She's not treating you very well here at all. If my own SO totally ignored me on some discussion-type board & flirts w/ another person or people on there, then I'd tell my SO that it's obvious they don't like being in committed relationships because everyone else seems more exciting to him/her than who she's w/ & I'm not going to tolerate it. Then, BE COMPLETELY DONE. No amount of apologizing would make me get back w/ her either because people behave the way they want to. A person shouldn't have to twist his/her own partner's arm to communicate, flirt, be affectionate w/ them. Genuine, true, respectful, supportive, loving partners are in this together & should have the, "we against the world" mentality". None of this, "now that I'm w/ someone, I can flirt around w/ whoever I want" BS.
You don't need this.
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