Why do most very-attractive people act very-unfriendly? (girlfriend, dance, older)
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Ok. I am going out on a limb here and post my experiences. When I was younger I was always told I was very beautiful, but I was very shy and didn't talk much. So in high school I didn't get asked out a lot, until my husband asked me out (He had B@@llS) So, in college now my confidence was up and I talked to more people, but really, because of my attractiveness, whenever I was friendly to a man, he would think "Alright....door WIDE open...flirting time" even though they knew I was married!! So it was constant hit ons even by professors One professor, gave me a B- on one of my courses, so I set up an appointment to talk with him about my grade. When I walked in the door, he stared at me and he said, I made a mistake, you get an A!!! I am not kidding! So through the years, I have learned to make as little eye contact with men, lest they start hitting on me. I am NOT being paranoid and I see this starting to happen with my 17 year old daughter who looks just like me! She is starting to notice that just because she is nice and friendly all the guys think she is available (she's got a boyfriend) and it's constant hitting time!! Alas, she is learning by herself how to act around men.
I tell you a story, when I was about 25 years old, and fresh out of college, I interviewed for a job. The first interview, woman interviewer. Second interview, young guy and the same woman. It was between me and another candidate. Guess who got the job?? When this young guy came in, he took one look at me, and I could see that he could hardly contain his joy! He hired me on the spot. He and I worked closely for the next three months, after which I quit, because he was becoming possessive even though, again, he KNEW I was married. Now, it happens to me with younger guys. I am 38 now, and I don't think I look like when I was 25, but it still happens. I am just telling my experiences, thank goodness I developed a personality, and a great sense of humor, or else I would have become a very shallow, beautiful girl growing up. Plus I am smart too
So, yeah..I tend not to talk to many men, or be friendly..lest they get the wrong idea.
I think you should always be friendly. Don't worry about the idiots. I never assume a woman is after me,,,,and usually I am right. I am very friendly to women, and guys for that matter, as well, but the women don't have the same openness that I do.
HAHA, you're great Artsy. I'm just giving you a tough time. I know what you mean, flaws are fixable for the most part, some are easier than others, but with enough effort almost anyone can be at least somewhat good looking. Most people don't try that hard. It sure is easier to complain about other people being superficial, the world being unfair, and to spend your days bitching and moaning than it is to actually do anything about it. And it's a LOT easier to put up a shield about how you're unique and you're happy with how you look and blah blah etc. than to bother actually trying to look good. Ah, reminds me of one of my favorite sayings -- "Hard work often pays off after time. But laziness always pays off now."
Hey I'm just judging from what I've seen on this forum, the word superficial is thrown about like it's going out of style. Nowhere else have I been accused of being superficial, in my entire life, especially not being a PHILOSOPHY major, writing the LONG posts I always write on forums, but around here just the mere notion that a guy would be into -- *gasp* -- "hot girls" instantly makes him a superficial frat boy. After all, only really bad men like beautiful women. What a society this has become, when it's no longer acceptable to appreciate physical beauty! Political correctness has indeed come too far.
Hey I'm just judging from what I've seen on this forum, the word superficial is thrown about like it's going out of style. Nowhere else have I been accused of being superficial, in my entire life, especially not being a PHILOSOPHY major, writing the LONG posts I always write on forums, but around here just the mere notion that a guy would be into -- *gasp* -- "hot girls" instantly makes him a superficial frat boy. After all, only really bad men like beautiful women. What a society this has become, when it's no longer acceptable to appreciate physical beauty! Political correctness has indeed come too far.
Well, in your case I understand fully what you are trying to get at, even though I do not always agree with it. I throw the term superficial at women who don't appreciate a good man when they see one. I could care less if a guy is superficial.
haha, well I kind of get his point. I always believed that when I was in school, I didn't care if this was a teacher or not, they need to earn my respect just like everyone else. If they don't treat me with respect, I won't respect them. Out of a sense of propriety I would be polite, but respect is earned not given, even by people who think they should already have it. That's why most of my teachers thought I was a great student, because they were great teachers, and I respected them. And the few who didn't treat me or others with respect weren't shown it in return, either.
LOL....Because they think their sh*t don`t stink! joke....
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One professor, gave me a B- on one of my courses, so I set up an appointment to talk with him about my grade. When I walked in the door, he stared at me and he said, I made a mistake, you get an A!!!
She is starting to notice that just because she is nice and friendly all the guys think she is available (she's got a boyfriend) and it's constant hitting time!! Alas, she is learning by herself how to act around men. 
