Why do most very-attractive people act very-unfriendly? (male, straight, beautiful)
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A very large number of people attractive or not are incredibly shy and lacking in self confidence. Not all attractive people know or beleive that they are attractive.
Most very attractive people (young adults in particular) seem to have a near-permanent stone-faced expression on their face in public. They either never say anything or never say much and come across to me as very-unfriendly.
Being a young adult straight single male, by default I've noticed this primarily with young women, but I've also noticed this amoung young guys too when I was bored.
Perhaps it is just my area.
The Greater Toronto Area is known for residents to be pretty cold or indifferent to strangers.
Perhaps I'm only noticing this because actractive people tend to draw more attention.
Why? Because they can. Good looking people can do whatever they want and get away with it.
Or maybe I'm on to something...
I have a step son who could have posed for hte Adonis and you wouldn't believe the crap he got away with because peole are of the opoinion if you are good looking you must be good. Nothing could be farther from the truth. (he has a personality defect that manifests as no conscience and is very conniving, but I have to admit funny and he can be nice but I'm rather biased )
lol That is so freakin true. So much that I roll my eyes in annoyance.
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Originally Posted by Coldjensens
A very large number of people attractive or not are incredibly shy and lacking in self confidence. Not all attractive people know or beleive that they are attractive.
I totally understand the idea of mis-interpretting kindness...
BUT...
To me, saying "hello", a brief smile etc. to a stranger IS NOT (by itself)KINDNESS.
It's (should be) how normal people are supposed to react to familiar faces in public, provided they have not done anything to upset you.
I stand corrected. I should have used the term Politeness instead of Kindness.
BUT...
You're discussing two different things. Is it your opinion that people should smile and/or say "hello" to both familiar faces and strangers?
Could it be a generational thing and their looks are irrelavant to their behaviors? Have you experienced this with people who are attractive but are older in age?
Well, I have a theory that you can successfully apply when encountering anybody, from a fashion model to a CEO of a company. It's worked for me.
While you are respectful and polite, just remember these four simple words: You're Not All That.
Because the beautiful and the powerful have to go to the bathroom just like everybody else. They have to deal with problems and issues in their lives, too. The more you treat them like ordinary people, the better off you'll be
I stand corrected. I should have used the term Politeness instead of Kindness.
BUT...
You're discussing two different things. Is it your opinion that people should smile and/or say "hello" to both familiar faces and strangers?
Could it be a generational thing and their looks are irrelavant to their behaviors? Have you experienced this with people who are attractive but are older in age?
Well I wish this society I lived in was more concerned with politeness.
Toronto is pretty close to "anything goes" for politeness, except that some Americans are impressed with how often we say "sorry"
which to say it for us is really just a mindless-reflex 90% of the time.
In Canada, or at least the Toronto area, the purpose of our quick "sorry" is to help others around us to quickly percieve what is happening around us and give us a good idea why. It's not usually a show of consideration, rather a way to rapidly express "hey, look here, I'm not trying to be rude, please don't get upset with me and hopefully we can go on ignoring each other shortly."
Is this different that what Americans think we mean when we say "sorry?"
No, strangers don't have to look friendly,
it'd be a nice touch, but not neccessary. However I do find it bizarre that you can see someone here at least 10 times AND YOU KNOW THEY'VE SEEN YOU TOO (they've made brief eye contact several times with you) and they will always try to pretend that they don't know you, and that perhaps you even make them worried, rather than a simple smile or "hi" because it's nice to see someone familiar.
This is part of what I'm talking about, as in wishing politeness was more of a priority here.
Actually, it seems to usually be an issue when the other person perceives me as a peer.
People a lot older than me or a lot younger tend toact in the generic Torontonian-way.
But why would more guys around my age do this,
when I'm not around women they might be "competing for?"
For what it's worth the 10ish girls in High School seem to age like all of us. At around the 20th class reunion the true personalities start to surface because they may not look so hot.
The high end guys sometimes define obeseity and try to maintain the HS football image by still trying to talk the talk.
So, when you find people who have to rely on their personality vs. the aging issue. Their former appearance and attitude seems to have been pretty funny.
This reminds me of the Tom Hanks John Lovitz SNL skit where their standing on a street corner or in the mall trying to be players and getting no where, comments as they go by like - Didn't even make eye contact or my face is way to big for my body...lol
This reminds me of the Tom Hanks John Lovitz SNL skit where their standing on a street corner or in the mall trying to be players and getting no where, comments as they go by like - Didn't even make eye contact or my face is way to big for my body...lol
LOL. "My eyebrows come together in a most unappealing way". Great skit.
I think its really the very attractive women who tend to act unfriendly. This is due in part to them always being bothered by men wherever they go. So as not to send any mixed signals, they just send no signals.
I rarely see very attractive women being bothered by men. Seriously.
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Originally Posted by DaBeez
LOL.
I think its really the very attractive women who tend to act unfriendly. This is due in part to them always being bothered by men wherever they go. So as not to send any mixed signals, they just send no signals.
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