Scary Frightening topic! The unmarried 40 year old (men, husband, engagement)

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by busyandfizzy

I totally agree. Don't waste your time on a married man.

That, too. Separated IS married and IS a mess - speaking from experience on both sides of the fence.

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

I guess I and my friends have all been extraordinarily lucky to have avoided all those liars then.

indeed it just keeps getting better.

[jinglebell]

Have read the whole thread

I came in shock that people can not be more open-minded

One lesson I learned from my own experience as well as people around me who are happy and successful is to

Be flexible not too judgmental

When I was young, I spin my head too much, I reacted too much, I got upset too much and too easily.... anyway, too much and too easily....

Just have a relaxed mind, be open and of course always be cautious...

Keep as many doors open for you as possible

Good luck, dear!

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble

I haven't written him back yet. I have a choice between sending him the canned response to say I'm not interested, or actually writing a response. If I write a response, I could either tell him that telling a girl her status is scary is not a good way to impress someone, or just blow that issue off and tell him I won't date someone until he's been divorced a while. I could also either be a smart a$$ with my response, or be more friendly. Haven't decided yet and I won't be deciding tonight. I need to get to bed.

Darlin', Don't waste your time with that Loser................You Deserve Much More In A Man. You Will Meet Him................................

[NotARedneck]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948
you are not a true american if you dont have 2 or 3 divorces under your belt

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Yey, I'm a true American!

Its expensive for a man to be a true American. Few can afford it anymore.

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by Mike from back east

There is a school of thought that people aged 40 and up who've never been married are too set in their ways to adapt to living with a partner, they don't know how to give/take/flex, may be too rigid and thus not a good partner.

I've seen this in 20 year olds too. Our society now expects them to get divorced several times to "develop" this flexibility. By 40, they should be coming into their own.

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

This is the general thought process in our society. It's inconceivable that a woman worth having would not make it to 40 without getting married or at least being in a long term relationship.

This is the common experience too. Women have the ultimate say in whether they get married and if they aren't, its usually because they didn't get an offer worth accepting. The question is then: Why?

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Info's been safely saved. I guess you were serious.

Yeah. I was just being honest in what I think lots of men think when they meet a 40 year old woman who has never been married. If she at least has been proposed to they feel a bit different, but overall, that does raise some red flags to men if she's never been married.

I deleted part of my post so the OP wouldnt think I was talking specifically about her.

[pinkjacket]

Agree with what's already been said...he's not even divorced and looking to find someone new and he thinks you're scary?

I'm 40 and single although I have been married. It was a lifetime ago though so I don't think it counts anymore. When people ask me if I'm married and I say "No" I get that face. You know the one that says "oh, you poor, poor dear..single at 40". What's wrong with people?

[Raggy dee Ann]

Originally Posted by DaBeez

40 Year Old Male Never been married - No big deal. Just a man enjoying life to the fullest.

40 Year Old Female Never Been married - Uh oh.

So a 40 year old unmarried woman can't be enjoying life to the fullest? Why a different rule for women.