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I haven't written him back yet. I have a choice between sending him the canned response to say I'm not interested, or actually writing a response. If I write a response, I could either tell him that telling a girl her status is scary is not a good way to impress someone, or just blow that issue off and tell him I won't date someone until he's been divorced a while. I could also either be a smart a$$ with my response, or be more friendly. Haven't decided yet and I won't be deciding tonight. I need to get to bed.
Darlin', Don't waste your time with that Loser................You Deserve Much More In A Man. You Will Meet Him................................
There is a school of thought that people aged 40 and up who've never been married are too set in their ways to adapt to living with a partner, they don't know how to give/take/flex, may be too rigid and thus not a good partner.
I've seen this in 20 year olds too. Our society now expects them to get divorced several times to "develop" this flexibility. By 40, they should be coming into their own.
This is the general thought process in our society. It's inconceivable that a woman worth having would not make it to 40 without getting married or at least being in a long term relationship.
This is the common experience too. Women have the ultimate say in whether they get married and if they aren't, its usually because they didn't get an offer worth accepting. The question is then: Why?
Info's been safely saved. I guess you were serious.
Yeah. I was just being honest in what I think lots of men think when they meet a 40 year old woman who has never been married. If she at least has been proposed to they feel a bit different, but overall, that does raise some red flags to men if she's never been married.
I deleted part of my post so the OP wouldnt think I was talking specifically about her.
Agree with what's already been said...he's not even divorced and looking to find someone new and he thinks you're scary?
I'm 40 and single although I have been married. It was a lifetime ago though so I don't think it counts anymore. When people ask me if I'm married and I say "No" I get that face. You know the one that says "oh, you poor, poor dear..single at 40". What's wrong with people?
40 Year Old Male Never been married - No big deal. Just a man enjoying life to the fullest.
40 Year Old Female Never Been married - Uh oh.
So a 40 year old unmarried woman can't be enjoying life to the fullest? Why a different rule for women.
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