Too many single women in their 20's with kids (cheating, partner, emotionally)
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hey..I see it this way..if you don't want to date someone with a child then don't, but don't start putting the blame on women or men..Its not like you are the one raising the kids. Why are you people so concern with other people problems. worry about your self...Sometimes I dislike people...we are so quick to judge others. If you don't want to date a women with a child, then don't...end of story and for the women who do have kids..so WHAT..you are not caring for those kids..so why are you worry about what they are going through..like it has an effect on you...Its almost like people who date out of their race and outsiders feel like its wrong, so they want to put in their opinions. GET A LIFE PEOPLE.
I just don't think it should be this difficult to find a pool of classy, attractive, and CHILDLESS women in such a large and fairly metropolitan city. I am outgoing, educated, have a good career, no threat to Brad Pitt but the looks decent wagon didn't pass me by completely, and I certainly have no trouble approaching women. Why am I having such trouble finding "keepers" who don't have kids?
You are in the SOUTH. Most people are married by age 20, they have a few kids, then are divorced by age 24. The culture here forces these kids to make decisions they really aren't mature enough to make. They try to have it both ways - the modern way of extending youth well into your 20s while at the same time keeping with the Old South tradition of taking on a family by that age.
Most of us agree there are too many children who's parents aren't together so for every "Too many single women in their 20's with kids" there are just as many single men in their 20's with kids....
so there are too many single parents in their 20's with kids.
But that said, there are too many single men in their 30's and 40's with kids (I'm a single lady and the men I meet have kids...so I choose to stay single)
Wouldnt a better name for this thread be "Too many men getting her pregnant and bailing out?"
That's another mentality issue. It usually comes down to the younger cockier player doing a few angles, the woman ignoring warning signs, going after him because of the bad-boy image then being shocked that he moved to Washington state after...You don't "get" someone pregnant, it takes 2. If they bail out, short of a complete personality 180 the signs where there previously, they just chose to ignore it.
That's another mentality issue. It usually comes down to the younger cockier player doing a few angles, the woman ignoring warning signs, going after him because of the bad-boy image then being shocked that he moved to Washington state after...You don't "get" someone pregnant, it takes 2. If they bail out, short of a complete personality 180 the signs where there previously, they just chose to ignore it.
All true. But still no reason for a man to not take care of his obligations. But you are right. There is almost always warning signs.
I just need to vent a little frustration. I am out in the dating game giving 100% just like most single guys in their mid-20's, but I have hit a rut lately where every attractive, single woman I meet has at LEAST one kid and was never married to the father.
Don't get me wrong. I love kids and want to have a family of my own someday. If I were in my 40's and still single, I would accept the fact that there probably aren't going to be too many childless women in my dating pool. But at 26, I'm just not ready for a ready-made family.
So here is my question. Doesn't ANYONE wait to get MARRIED before they have babies anymore? Mitt Romney caught some flack for saying basically the same thing at CPAC last year, but the man is right. Take it from a 26-year-old male who is tired of his dating pool being saturated with kids. Time for the lifeguard to blow the whistle for adults-only swim.
End rant.
Statisically, the more intelligent a woman is the more likely that she will be childfree. Maybe you need to start pursuing smarter women LOL
hey..I see it this way..if you don't want to date someone with a child then don't, but don't start putting the blame on women or men..Its not like you are the one raising the kids. Why are you people so concern with other people problems. worry about your self...Sometimes I dislike people...we are so quick to judge others. If you don't want to date a women with a child, then don't...end of story and for the women who do have kids..so WHAT..you are not caring for those kids..so why are you worry about what they are going through..like it has an effect on you...Its almost like people who date out of their race and outsiders feel like its wrong, so they want to put in their opinions. GET A LIFE PEOPLE.
I suggest that if you don't want to read other people's HONEST opinions about what they think, then you do not frequent a message board, since that is really what they are about, KWIM?
Wouldnt a better name for this thread be "Too many men getting her pregnant and bailing out?"
How many of these single fathers actually asked or begged their baby momma to have their kids? It's not that difficult to prevent pregnancy through the pill, patch or shot. These young women have to have more commonsense about their relationships and not get pregnant as a way to get their bad boy guy to settle down and marry with them.
I still can't get over that 29 year old guy in TN with 21 kids with 11 different women.... and he only makes minimum wage. Maybe he fooled one woman, but that leaves 10 really stupid women with some of them having TWO of his kids!!!
I just don't think it should be this difficult to find a pool of classy, attractive, and CHILDLESS women in such a large and fairly metropolitan city. I am outgoing, educated, have a good career, no threat to Brad Pitt but the looks decent wagon didn't pass me by completely, and I certainly have no trouble approaching women. Why am I having such trouble finding "keepers" who don't have kids?
Because the vast majority of women *aren't* keepers (at least in your eyes). You're obviously pickier than most guys...it's going to be an uphill battle finding one that makes you want to bother.
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