Girlfriend meets new guy at the bar who becomes new friend? (date, movies)
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you asked....which means, regardless of you being 99% sure...your also in denial and making excuses for an unacceptable relationship...and why can't she make girl friends....
She doesnt get along well with girls, but who does? haha. Why is it unacceptable, just because he is a guy?
There is a big time apprearance of impropriety. So out of respect to you, she shouldn't be texting or meeting this guy at bars. But if you're ok with it, that's all that matters.
Basically I do believe men and woman CAN be friends, but it can be a slippery slope for some people. There have to be clear boundries and full disclosure with your significant other.
I agree. And now another part of the story. So my friend and his girl broke up for about 6 months at one point. After about 2 weeks of being officially broken up, she had a one night stand. Then after they had been chatting for a bit, nothing serious, she started dating this real loser. Eventually broke up with him to come back to my friend. He felt as though he was cheated on even though they were in fact broken up.
There is a big time apprearance of impropriety. So out of respect to you, she shouldn't be texting or meeting this guy at bars. But if you're ok with it, that's all that matters.
yeah, i think thats the thing i'm trying to understand. Why does it look improper to most people when it really isnt?
Based upon your hypothetical storyline, I'd be suspect of this other guys intentions. Most guys aren't hanging out at bars exchanging phone numbers with girls because they are looking for a new "friend" to exchange recipes with. There's more to it, and it seems your girlfriend's intentions are suspect as well. Based on your second story, I would not allow myself to remain in the relationship if she were standoffish about me meeting her new "friend" that she met in a bar, but to each their own. So long as your happy I guess.
I agree. And now another part of the story. So my friend and his girl broke up for about 6 months at one point. After about 2 weeks of being officially broken up, she had a one night stand. Then after they had been chatting for a bit, nothing serious, she started dating this real loser. Eventually broke up with him to come back to my friend. He felt as though he was cheated on even though they were in fact broken up.
yeah, i think thats the thing i'm trying to understand. Why does it look improper to most people when it really isnt?
G Man
Again, because of the potential for disaster. Sometimes where there is smoke there really is fire.
And I agree with the poster above who said the impropriaty of potential situations is just not going to be worth it in the long run.
You know, it's one thing if a girl has had a long term friendship with a guy and THEN she meets her boyfriend. It's kind of a whole other thing when a woman in a committed relationship makes a new guy "friend"
Based upon your hypothetical storyline, I'd be suspect of this other guys intentions. Most guys aren't hanging out at bars exchanging phone numbers with girls because they are looking for a new "friend" to exchange recipes with. There's more to it, and it seems your girlfriend's intentions are suspect as well. Based on your second story, I would not allow myself to remain in the relationship if she were standoffish about me meeting her new "friend" that she met in a bar, but to each their own. So long as your happy I guess.
I agree. The guys intentions may have been misguided. But now i have met him and he understands the situation. He has continued to hang out so maybe he was just looking for friends. He recently got out of the army and i dont think he knows a lot of people around here. I do see that the situation is unusual but that doesnt mean it is necessarily wrong.
Its not that she was standoffish about it, she wanted her "me" time and i cant really argue with that because i have plenty of that as well, especially last summer. I take multiple week long trips a year without her. I am happy.
G Man
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