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When she said: "What's that?" I would have immediately said with a playfully condescending tone: "It's called a cell phone. You put your number in it and then I can call you later. It's really pretty amazing!"
If she still said: "You're NOT getting my number." I would then have pretended to be insulted (but obviously not) and said: "Fine! By that way!" and put it back in my pocket.
After all that if she dared to say that: "aww, don't feel bad" crap to me I would have said: "Wait a minute... you think I'm gay AND you think I'm trying to pick you up. So that makes you, what? Transgendered? That's amazing I could have sworn you were born a girl! When did you know you where a woman in a man's body?"
I would have loved to see her reaction LOL
Like I said, hindsight is 20/20
Maybe I should have said this. Maybe I should have said that.
But it's too late now to say any of that. I was really hurt and insulted and shocked and I couldn't think on my toes for anything snappy to say.
Eitherway, I know I'll probably see her again there. What should I say next?
Hello?? Did you or did you NOT say the following?????
THAT is what I meant by your "approach"....not that YOU literally "approached" her!!! And yes....what you did - with pulling out the cell phone, and said to her - to me, sounds very very odd.
Approaching means just that; going towards someone; making first contact.
If you're not interested in a guy, don't lead him on by talking to him. It's that simple.
It is NOT possible that EVERY person you meet is going to be interested. Ot's like going on a job interview. Sometimes you'll get the job, sometimes you won't. The only thing you can do is be yourself
Didn't you just say...
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Originally Posted by CESpeed
Sweetie your number one problem is you like to use cheesy lines and actions. "Let's meet up again except not by accident" is cheesy and pulling out your phone was presumptive.
You seem like a really nice guy, just clueless. Like you've seen too many cool guy movies and think that the on-screen stuff really works. It doesn't in real life.
Please, what do I have to do or say to convince you people that I didn't try to use a cheesy line or as cripted phrase?
I WAS JUST BEING MYSELF!
It was just something that came out naturally and unconsciously in a conversation.
It wasn't a "cheesy line," it wasn't "on-screen stuff," it was just something that came out because I was "just being myself," like you said.
What is it going to take to get you to believe this?
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Eitherway, I know I'll probably see her again there. What should I say next?
Nothing, I would completely ignore her, she's not worth worrying about. Just go on doing what you normally do there, hanging out, studying, whatever. Don't let yourself be intimidated or humiliated into changing your hangout or behavior.
And I for one believe you that you were just saying what comes naturally, nothing wrong with that. I also disagree with the comment that you're clueless. It is in fact that girl who is clueless in how to treat people decently. She's taking no responsibility for approaching you or inviting you over. Asking for her number was perfectly reasonable. All she had to say was: "I don't think I know you well enough yet to give out my number."
Even if she thought the way you asked was odd, she didn't have to make fun of you. She's just a sad pathetic little girl who hasn't grown up yet. Pity her if you want but don't let her bring you down to her level.
So...women should not engage you in conversation unless they eventually would like to sleep with you?
I hadn't thought about this, she might be right Cyan. It's probably that the girl wanted you to pound her on the table right then and there but just felt bad for her gay buddy.
They should engage in conversation if they want to make friendly small talk, are curious about something, want to make a new friend, network, etc
Remember, we have only ONE persons perspective of this encounter.
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And yes....what you did - with pulling out the cell phone, and said to her - to me, sounds very very odd. 
