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If you can't orgasm, you should not blame it on your partner. There may be a physical or psychological condition preventing you from doing so. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own orgasm.
I've tried to get him to worry less about it, and even shared some interesting facts with him about orgasms, such as that some women physically can't orgasm or just never do. I think it only helped him a little bit not to worry about it so much.
Oh, really?
No wonder I have been a happy girl even under unpleasant circumstances
I could care less about an orgasm . As much as I used to have them when I was younger, I don't feel the need to even have one by myself anymore. So, I don't expect him to make miracles.
"If you can't orgasm, you should not blame it on your partner."
Blaming this on Men has been pretty popular for many "eons".
Because they expect men to "perform" in bed I take more than some feel they should get them to attain the "org" while they probably just lie there.
I didn't relate it to gender--but I was the one having the psychological block with one woman. I couldn't get there. Because she only wanted me for sex, and could care less the rest of the time. Thought I could make it work, but I was wrong. And it translated into not being able to orgasm.
I don't know about the whole owe thing but between my fiancee and I, we just like to reciprocate back to each other. Neither of us feels like we OWE it to the other person.
Its not a question of owing or mark of performance. Its about sharing something very personal. It is fun to bring pleasure and enjoyment to your partner.
I think for a lot of men, somewhere in the back of their minds, sex isn't considered "good" or "enjoyable" unless there's an orgasm involved. A lot of women don't need an orgasm to enjoy themselves completely in the bedroom.
I agree that if you want to orgasm it's your responsibility ("in your own hands" so to speak ). I've never understood it when someone blames their partner when they don't orgasm.
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Originally Posted by yankeegirl313
Mine does take the time to see if I will, and if I can see that I`m not gonna, then, I`ll tell him. I do try though, but I`m not gonna tell him I did, when I didn`t.
Yeah, same here. I can usually tell if I'm going to or not and if not I'll let him know. I'm not going to fake it though.
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