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TKramar · 08-27-2010, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Drover

Look, go argue abstracts all day long with someone else. Child support can be managed through a trust, notwithstanding all your little "what if" diversions.

And they can be mismanaged or abused also. Simply admit that instead of arguing about it.

Any system has the capacity for failure--nothing is perfect.

Drover · 08-27-2010, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by TKramar

If it's for my support, then it's MY money. Not mom's. Not dad's any longer either.

It's still not at the child's discretion as to how to spend it. That is not an arguable opinion, it's a straight-up fact. End of story.

TKramar · 08-27-2010, 05:13 PM

That's why you don't give it to the child until they reach the age of majority. See, I already figured that part in!

Drover · 08-27-2010, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by TKramar

That's why you don't give it to the child until they reach the age of majority. See, I already figured that part in!

So, you won't trust someone to disperse it as needed while you're a minor, but you'll trust someone to hold it for you in trust until you turn 18. Brilliant selective, self-serving bit of trust there, no pun intended.

As has been explained to you multiple times, this is not the function of child support. The function of child support is to support the child's immediate needs.

TKramar · 08-27-2010, 05:18 PM

Unfortunately, I've seen child support failing to serve its function.

So...let it go to the person it's intended for, even if they have to wait until 18 to get it.

Drover · 08-27-2010, 05:22 PM

So let me see if I got this straight: since you have seen child support fail to serve its function, you prefer a remedy that also doesn't serve this function while eshewing an obvious solution that does serve this function such as a child support trust. Do I have that right?

It's not the child's money to spend as (s)he sees fit, at 18 or at any age. If the noncustodial parent believes the child support is not serving its function, they can go to court and get an accounting.

steelstress · 08-27-2010, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by TKramar

I wouldn't trust another person with money that should have went TO me...for MY care, and MY support.

If I spend it on a car so that I can get back and forth to a job, or put a down payment on a house, or go to college, it's my right, and my money.

Actually, no, it's not your money, and it never was. It was your mom's money, although it was meant to support you. But it was never your money.

steelstress · 08-27-2010, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by TKramar

Unfortunately, I've seen child support failing to serve its function.

So...let it go to the person it's intended for, even if they have to wait until 18 to get it.

And in the meantime, that parent isn't contributing to that child's support.

Opyelie · 08-28-2010, 12:18 AM

What TK apparently fails to be able to SEE is that IF all the support money was put into escrow to be handed to the child at 18 - then that means the custodial parent gets the FULL burden of supporting said child ................good GRIEF.

Ceece · 08-28-2010, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Opyelie

What TK apparently fails to be able to SEE is that IF all the support money was put into escrow to be handed to the child at 18 - then that means the custodial parent gets the FULL burden of supporting said child ................good GRIEF.

True. And if it's not used to help the parent support the minor then there really is no need for it at all is there?