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Old 12-23-2009, 12:29 PM
 
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That's just how I am. It's not that I'm so hot and bothered, I'm just shy and awkward around men I find attractive.
Which is fine im just saying i find it odd only because the shy and awkardness usually comes from wanting to impress and leave a good impression on that person which should be gone when youre married..
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:30 PM
 
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<hi from hell>I wouldn't blame you.</hi from hell>
huh?

Edit: oh i was joking i didnt want you to actually go there
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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Which is fine im just saying i find it odd only because the shy and awkardness usually comes from wanting to impress and leave a good impression on that perosn which should be gone when youre married..
Well, I guess I'm just a ***** like I said earlier.
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:35 PM
 
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Well, I guess I'm just a ***** like I said earlier.
I didnt say that i just find it weird that you still get flustered and scared over attractive men in a marriage i never implied you do anyhting morally wrong..

Im just saying it would bother me which should mean nothing to you its just how i feel myself..
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:37 PM
 
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I would not think so. He thought I was a bimbo and treated me like dirt. He respected the mannish women and had them spy on me. His wife was pretty butch. Some men treat feminine looking or attractive females like they are all stupid tramps. They are usually those who were always rejected by such girls. His behavior was more ridiculous than the young guys who he thought were so disrupted by the presence of a young female.
Hi tamajane,

If I were to take a wild guess it was his attraction to you that was causing some sort of affect. I'd say its 50-50. He showed way too much attitude. If he were just attracted to his butch wife, he would tend towards indifference. Some men can't approach women so they are mopped up by aggressive women. However they sometimes pine for something else. He may have been trying to isolate you and humiliate you into a self image he could abuse. Pimps do it all the time. Cause a hot women to crack, and use them up. Glad you have a back bone.
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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I didnt say that i just find it weird that you still get flustered over attractive men in a marriage i never implied you do anyhting moralyl wrong..

Im just saying it would bother me which should mean nothing to you its just how i feel myself..
Okay. I'll just cross you off my list of City Data men to potentially date or marry, lol. Sorry if I was being too defensive. I don't take it well when I feel that my loyalty to my husband is being questioned. I've been through a lot with him and I will continue to be there.
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:39 PM
 
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Wow, we are kind today.
I am just yanking you
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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I am just yanking you
Sorry, I think the idea that I'm not loyal to my husband made me very defensive. I need to chill out.
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:42 PM
 
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Okay. I'll just cross you off my list of City Data men to potentially date or marry, lol. Sorry if I was being too defensive. I don't take it well when I feel that my loyalty to my husband is being questioned. I've been through a lot with him and I will continue to be there.
My fault if i came off being offensive i never meant to imply youd cheat or did somethign wrong..

..Im not saying my feeling is rigth its judt my feeling on it..Maybe its because im insecure why it would bother me who knows..
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Old 12-23-2009, 12:48 PM
 
Location: southern california
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i had no idea you did this work. i am so proud of you guy.
merry christmas.
as to goofy behavior. all guys wana make a woman laugh if she is attractive making her laugh is part of approval process. it runs deep. of course you want her to laugh with you not at you.
beautiful women caused taj mahal and the pyramids to be built we must live with it ron.
beautiful women wield enormous power ron, i didnt make the rules i just follow them
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