Knowing your partner's libido is important, what are the reasons to wait until marriage to have sex? (atheist, Catholics)

[BaptistFundie]

Originally Posted by Frozenfire88

Wouldn't it better to figure out if there's going to be issues before marriage then after being married

That's the entire point of premarital counseling.

One doesn't get marriage based on physical attraction and lust alone. What happens in 20 years when things are different?

[Cruithne]

Originally Posted by BaptistFundie

That's the entire point of premarital counseling.

One doesn't get marriage based on physical attraction and lust alone. What happens in 20 years when things are different?

Premarital counseling?

What an utterly depressing concept.
For goodness sake.
If you need counseling before you get married you definitely should not be getting married.

[EscAlaMike]

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Premarital counseling?

What an utterly depressing concept.
For goodness sake.
If you need counseling before you get married you definitely should not be getting married.

Heaven forbid anyone would seek counsel before making the biggest decision of their lives

[EscAlaMike]

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

"Sexual compatibility" is a joke. If one party has a male sex organ and the other party has a female sex organ, then they are compatible.

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Oh how wrong you are Mike.
Let me tell you from a woman's perspective, you are very, very wrong.

Well that depends on what sex is for, doesn't it?

[Cruithne]

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

Heaven forbid anyone would seek counsel before making the biggest decision of their lives

Heaven forbid anyone should have sex before making the biggest decision of their lives.

You don't buy a car before checking everything works yourself.
I don't buy a car based on someone else's say so.

Marriage should be taken a lot more seriously than buying a car.

[Cruithne]

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

Well that depends on what sex is for, doesn't it?

Meaning?

[EscAlaMike]

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

"Sexual compatibility" is a joke. If one party has a male sex organ and the other party has a female sex organ, then they are compatible.

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Oh how wrong you are Mike.
Let me tell you from a woman's perspective, you are very, very wrong.

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

Well that depends on what sex is for, doesn't it?

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Meaning?

If the *purpose* of sex is giving and receiving physical pleasure, then your sentiment makes sense.

Of course, I don't agree that that is the purpose of sex.

[Cruithne]

Originally Posted by EscAlaMike

If the *purpose* of sex is giving and receiving physical pleasure, then your sentiment makes sense.

Of course, I don't agree that that is the purpose of sex.

Well let me ask you this as an outright question.

Regardless the purpose, should sex be pleasurable?

[EscAlaMike]

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Well let me ask you this as an outright question.

Regardless the purpose, should sex be pleasurable?

Do you mean "should" in a biological or moral sense?

Biologically speaking, I would answer yes because our sex organs were designed to send pleasure signals to our brain. If there are no biological deficiencies, then sex will generally be pleasurable.

Morally speaking, I would say that each partner in the marriage has a duty to ensure that their partner is satisfied in the marital act; but should one be left unsatisfied through no fault of either one, there is no moral failing there.

[BaptistFundie]

Originally Posted by Cruithne

Premarital counseling?

What an utterly depressing concept.
For goodness sake.
If you need counseling before you get married you definitely should not be getting married.

My wife and I have been married for 25 years. We went to it, and it was a great benefit. We didn't go because we had a bad relationship, but it helped us think about some things ahead of time. I'm glad we did.

But it's interesting that you seem to be taking the stance that we should ignore God's commands regarding sexual purity, and we should thumb our nose at the idea of getting wise counsel from others in lieu of simply having physical experiences.