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Sorry, I will judge.
It's your responsibility to figure out your child rearing needs and deal with them.
An emergency here and there, fine; a general practice, not so fine.
You chose to have kids. Figure it out.
Again, read my post. I did figure it out. I don't put the onus of my workload on anyone else. I work earlier, later or weekends to get work done when needed.
You mentioned one coworker that had an emergency and asked for your help. If your coworkers are completing their work, it's managements problem not yours.
Again, read my post. I did figure it out. I don't put the onus of my workload on anyone else. I work earlier, later or weekends to get work done when needed.
You mentioned one coworker that had an emergency and asked for your help. If your coworkers are completing their work, it's managements problem not yours.
I responded to your comment. Period.
You're not special because you have kids.
If the office doesn't offer flex hours for all, why would you expect to have flex hours?
Because you have kids?
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Originally Posted by veuvegirl
Your coworker had no right to be angry at you, especially since you were doing her a favor. However, until you have kids don't judge. I used to despise coworkers with kids that pulled the same stuff. Then I had children, and now I get it. There are times you need to leave for your kids. They come first, no matter what. I manage my time differently. Taking some work home, coming in early etc. Things some wouldn't notice.
Last week in the wake of Newtown's shooting I asked my boss to leave early to meet my kids off the bus and just hug them. She was very understanding (no kids of her own). Until you have kids, it is truly hard to judge.
Yeah.
People bail earlier, show up later, etc...all citing the kid.
I would love to cite my dog's doctor's appointment for the reason I did the same, but that's somehow 'different.'
Btw, I have a kid now and I still don't bail.
My choice to have a child is not someone else's problem.
True -- and as a parent what irks me a lot are those other parents who think they can bail out any time using their children as an excuse and figure everyone else has to pick up their slack -- including other parents.
Some women will take a 3 month leisurely maternity leave -- and completely do not care that other parents will go without any time off with their children. It's a me, me, me attitude out there and it extends to them thinking their time with their children is all that counts, other parents can give up vacation and days off to accomodate them. Not to mention their attitude that childless people can go without any life.
Like the OP I'm in my 30s and don't have kids. I work full time. And yes I judge workplace parents without apology. Your crumb snatchers, your problem.
I have a kid with another on the way. People who constantly use kids as an excuse to not pull their weight, or never help when others need help, but expect help themselves, get on my nerves.
I responded to your comment. Period.
You're not special because you have kids. If the office doesn't offer flex hours for all, why would you expect to have flex hours?
Because you have kids?
Who said they did? Again, that is a management issue. If I can flex to go pick up my sick kid, then you can flex to go to the gym or whatever else you have going on. If you can't, take it up with your supervisor.
Who said they did? Again, that is a management issue. If I can flex to go pick up my sick kid, then you can flex to go to the gym or whatever else you have going on. If you can't, take it up with your supervisor.
Ah, didn't bother to read the post I was responding to.
I see.
Blame everyone except those who expect special treatment.
Ah, didn't bother to read the post I was responding to.
I see.
Blame everyone except those who expect special treatment.
um, yes I read the post you were responding to. The poster said she flexes her time. She never said other aren't allowed to do the same. See, that's why I asked "who said they did?" It isn't special treatment if everyone can do it.
Today I encountered a full time co worker who begged me to come in early as our work was backed up from the previous day. She was angry at me today because I "only came in 2 hours and 15 minutes before my original scheduled start time for today at 745.I am sceehduled to come in at 10am today.. ..
Next time she is angry, ask for a 4 way discussion, you, her, boss, H/R manager.
Shouldn't that be IF you have kids? I wish people would stop saying when you have kids or wait until you have kids. No on is guaranteed anything. I do agree if you can't handle work and kids to stay at home. At least try to make balance. Then why is it always the mother taking off early?
Corrected. IF someone chooses to have children. Agreed, there has to be a balance of work/home/children if that's the road you decide to take. Many employers offer flex-time for just such emergencies, but some emergencies go beyond the scope of flex-time, which will put other workers in a bind. Not saying it would happen all the time, but with babies, toddlers and young children, nothing is ever carved in stone.
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