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Since it is a new job, ditch the vacation. If you keep fighting with your new employer about it, you might lose your job. But at least you will be free to go to the wedding if you are fired.
New jobs and vacations just don't mix. You will have to choose one or the other.
If there is more to the story they aren’t telling me. My manager said she would ask HR again after telling me what they told her. Especially after I told her I could take it unpaid.
I think there’s more that my manager isn’t telling me because as I said she is getting married a week and a half before the dates that I requested off. She told me she was not taking a honeymoon. I’m willing to bet that something changed and she’s going to be out during the dates I requested off and that’s why they’re denying me.
I’m going to look for another job
As others state, this sucks but keep your head down and do the best you can at the job until you find another one. I'm sure your friend will understand.
Since it is a new job, ditch the vacation. If you keep fighting with your new employer about it, you might lose your job. But at least you will be free to go to the wedding if you are fired.
New jobs and vacations just don't mix. You will have to choose one or the other.
It's not a "vacation" - she is IN the wedding party for a friend, which is much different than just going to Hawaii for R&R. Depending on how close of a friend this is, she could be damaging a friendship and/or missing out on a very special experience. I've been a bridesmaid or Maid-of-honor in 5 weddings, and wouldn't have missed any of them for a job. Then again, I've never had a job so inflexible or uncaring to deny such a request (especially so far in advance). My boss gave me last-minute time off for a job interview recently, so maybe I'm just spoiled.
Since it is a new job, ditch the vacation. If you keep fighting with your new employer about it, you might lose your job. But at least you will be free to go to the wedding if you are fired.
New jobs and vacations just don't mix. You will have to choose one or the other.
Not going to fight it. Going to look for something else and give notice .
Keep working and play it cool. But, keep up your job search. By June, very likely you'll have found another position. Personally, I'd work right up until the time of the wedding and then give my two-week notice. Can't believe the nerve of these people especially since you told them upfront and they said fine.
It's not a "vacation" - she is IN the wedding party for a friend, which is much different than just going to Hawaii for R&R. Depending on how close of a friend this is, she could be damaging a friendship and/or missing out on a very special experience. I've been a bridesmaid or Maid-of-honor in 5 weddings, and wouldn't have missed any of them for a job. Then again, I've never had a job so inflexible or uncaring to deny such a request (especially so far in advance). My boss gave me last-minute time off for a job interview recently, so maybe I'm just spoiled.
But it is a vacation. Vacation time will be used for it whether it is R&R or a wedding. Management doesn't care. The person is not going to be at work for whatever reason, and the time that is going to recorded is vacation time. That is all that management cares about. The company exists to make money, not please their employees.
The OP has decided that she will quit her job and go to the wedding. That is a solid decision.
Not going to fight it. Going to look for something else and give notice .
Thank you for the update & good luck on your search.
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