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The shock here is that the ruling came from a US judge, which will have major implications for anybody looking to adopt overseas.
I disagree. I posted this in my thread Failed Adoption; Joyce Maynard. http://www.city-data.com/forum/adopt...e-maynard.html
She adopted her child, didn't want the child anymore, did not take advantage od many resources available to her for the child and then sent him back to Russia. I don't blame the judge for this action.
International adoptions aren't finalized for some time until after the child is in this country. She made a big mistake and I think anybody adopting from overseas will know they are responsible for finding legal solutions and not shipping the kid back to the country of origin.
I see this as a good thing and I have adopted internationally 3 times.
Our international adoptions were finalized overseas, my kids were US citizens the moment their plane touched down in the US. It depends on the country, IR3 visas vs. IR4 visas if I remember correctly.
Russian adoptions are also final as soon as the child lands in the US.
Our international adoptions were finalized overseas, my kids were US citizens the moment their plane touched down in the US. It depends on the country, IR3 visas vs. IR4 visas if I remember correctly.
Russian adoptions are also final as soon as the child lands in the US.
you mean you did not have to re adopt once you were in the US? We sure did have to for our Korean daughter and I have the cutest picture of her all dressed in red, white and blue becoming a citizen the same day we formally readopted her.
can't honestly remember what we had to do for our Vietnamese daughters. life has been a blur these past 10 years.
but regardless of when the adoption is final I'm sure you agree this mother did not go about it the right way by sending the kid back to Russia.
and if paying child support would keep anybody from adopting - overseas or otherwise-then they have no business doing it. you don't try kids on and there is no returning. However that does not mean some adoptions should not be interrupted.
Were there signs that the child was disturbed before the child was adopted out? Did the orphanage provide a full disclosure?
I know a couple who I think should not have adopted because they had a too-idealized idea of what it would be like to take on an older child but also they were most likely intentionally not informed -- for one they were told the child was 12 but when they took him to a pediatrician, the pediatrician said more like 14 or 15. At first things seem great though but they would wake up and find him in their bedroom with a knife in his hands and began to fear him. The boy would talk about blood and murder and very likely there were serious problems and this couple was not equiped to deal with serious emotional issues.
Were there signs that the child was disturbed before the child was adopted out? Did the orphanage provide a full disclosure?
I know a couple who I think should not have adopted because they had a too-idealized idea of what it would be like to take on an older child but also they were most likely intentionally not informed -- for one they were told the child was 12 but when they took him to a pediatrician, the pediatrician said more like 14 or 15. At first things seem great though but they would wake up and find him in their bedroom with a knife in his hands and began to fear him. The boy would talk about blood and murder and very likely there were serious problems and this couple was not equiped to deal with serious emotional issues.
There is absolutely no question that the woman in this case was unprepared to adopt this child. No the orphanage probably didn't fully disclose all of the information they may or may not have had. But in all honesty they probably just wanted to find the child a home. I visited an orphanage for older children in Central Asia where we adopted our kids, there were 300 kids and there were 2 caregivers on duty at a time, it was like Lord of the Flies, my guess is the caregivers didn't even know most of the kids' names, let alone their mental capabilities.
Yes, there is probably good reason that this adoption was disrupted. But that in no way excuses this woman from sticking a scared, damaged, child on a plane with a note. No excuse at all.
Just an aside, in adoption language we don't use the term "adopted out" any longer. I'm sure you didn't know that but I thought you might want to.
Were there signs that the child was disturbed before the child was adopted out? Did the orphanage provide a full disclosure?
I know a couple who I think should not have adopted because they had a too-idealized idea of what it would be like to take on an older child but also they were most likely intentionally not informed -- for one they were told the child was 12 but when they took him to a pediatrician, the pediatrician said more like 14 or 15. At first things seem great though but they would wake up and find him in their bedroom with a knife in his hands and began to fear him. The boy would talk about blood and murder and very likely there were serious problems and this couple was not equiped to deal with serious emotional issues.
I'm adopted from Russia. My orphanage completely made up a bunch of stuff on my medical records. For example they said that I have Hepatitis C and I don't. I think it has to do with some law where the Russian government only allows sick children to be adopted out of the country, and only allows healthy children to be adopted into the country. So orphanages will fail to mention or make up illnesses to get a child adopted to the desired country.
There is absolutely no question that the woman in this case was unprepared to adopt this child. No the orphanage probably didn't fully disclose all of the information they may or may not have had. But in all honesty they probably just wanted to find the child a home. I visited an orphanage for older children in Central Asia where we adopted our kids, there were 300 kids and there were 2 caregivers on duty at a time, it was like Lord of the Flies, my guess is the caregivers didn't even know most of the kids' names, let alone their mental capabilities.
Yes, there is probably good reason that this adoption was disrupted. But that in no way excuses this woman from sticking a scared, damaged, child on a plane with a note. No excuse at all.
Just an aside, in adoption language we don't use the term "adopted out" any longer. I'm sure you didn't know that but I thought you might want to.
My orphanage had one caretaker to 140 children. The floor was an inch thick with sticky dirt. The caretaker didn't even know I was blind. But she did recognize me by name when I went back to visit 12 years later.
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