Praying for a wife (divorced, marriage, faith, spiritual)
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Good advice, except I haven't found a co-ed group to join. Long story, but I live in a city I'm not from that is very cliquish. I've lived here for 6 years and its been a 6 year struggle. That said, I've looked very hard for those types of groups and found a couple through meetup.com, but weren't the right ones for me.
Then you have really not been looking. You have set yourself up for failure by defining you location as cliquish.
When you are ready to open yourself up to new experiences you will meet people.
When I moved to a sleepy Southern town I knew no one beyond family. I like meeting people, and so I met people. I am still meeting people. Was it easy? No. It gets easier.
If you limit your circle to men's groups, you will not meet women. It is that simple.
Women volunteer. Go volunteer.
Women look to help others, so go help others.
If you sit at home mourning your situation, you will not meet women.
If you commiserate about women with men, you will not meet women.
You have been sleeping for six years. You are sitting on the precipice of choice. Choose wisely.
Isn’t praying for a rib woman just like bandaid?
Um, no.
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Originally Posted by RonkonkomaNative
Then you have really not been looking. You have set yourself up for failure by defining you location as cliquish.
When you are ready to open yourself up to new experiences you will meet people.
When I moved to a sleepy Southern town I knew no one beyond family. I like meeting people, and so I met people. I am still meeting people. Was it easy? No. It gets easier.
If you limit your circle to men's groups, you will not meet women. It is that simple.
Women volunteer. Go volunteer.
Women look to help others, so go help others.
If you sit at home mourning your situation, you will not meet women.
If you commiserate about women with men, you will not meet women.
You have been sleeping for six years. You are sitting on the precipice of choice. Choose wisely.
Well, you don't know my history here. I have not been "sleeping", but I am tired of going out all the time making the effort. Its not easy going out alone and foprcing yourself to socialize, at least as a shy introvert. Thats not an excuse, since I do it anyway, but I'm sure it holds me back. I've done many things like join a church, attend meetups, take comedy classes, and I'm not only going to be in a mens group, but also 1 or maybe 2 co-ed groups, though all are church related. I also joined a country club, despite not feeling like I'm a "country club" kind of guy. Jury is out on that one. But yeah, I've tried many things, some of which I'm forgetting at the moment.
Well, you don't know my history here. I have not been "sleeping", but I am tired of going out all the time making the effort. Its not easy going out alone and foprcing yourself to socialize, at least as a shy introvert. Thats not an excuse, since I do it anyway, but I'm sure it holds me back. I've done many things like join a church, attend meetups, take comedy classes, and I'm not only going to be in a mens group, but also 1 or maybe 2 co-ed groups, though all are church related. I also joined a country club, despite not feeling like I'm a "country club" kind of guy. Jury is out on that one. But yeah, I've tried many things, some of which I'm forgetting at the moment.
Ask God to teach you patience, and He'll probably give you a wife
rotf.... that is a jewel right there Finn ... yes you snuck up on somthing profound...
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to the orginal poster.... questions..
IS? He praying about becoming a man that "a wife" would want either. because a patient husband and long-suffering, faithful .. isn't needed around children? ... monthly's? and pms? and all the other issues.....a real family has..
marriage isn't about what you get, but what you are prepared to GIVE...
meaning a woman has to want you and has to put up with you too....
and since you having a wife means at least adding 10 years to your life and to the quality of your life.. ..
so maybe your going to want to pray about God creating you into a husband and one that a wife wants and wants to keep around also. because She is all about what you are bring to a future family.. and if she isn't seeing Jesus( a man of sacrifices ( which is love ) .. in you. what you want to take and are all wanting from her isn't going to help you find someone to love ..love.
because you will someday find that love isn't what you feel you are getting.... but what you give to those you love.
that is what keeps you in the game for the long haul. and it is about how much you enjoy pouring yourself out for the ones you love most.
so unless your really pretty( but pretty can get ugly in a hurry if it is too needy and demanding) .. or really rich so that she can buy someone to take care of the babies and all their needs.. . and pay someone keep the house, etc.. and thus she can baby , the big demanding baby in the house ..( you) instead ..
meaning so basically a poor and ugly guy had better learn what love is all about .. and Finn was all over it..
So back to what I said about the cliquish mentality. You just can't understand it if you haven't lived here. I've never seen anything like it, honestly. Yes, I've made friends, but I would say only 2-3 real ones, and even that is questionable. I've met many people that I thought could be friends, but I got tired of making all the effort, so they drifted away. Now by joining these small groups, I'm hoping true Christians will find friendships more meaningful, but no guarantees. Its also hard to meet them where they are in their spiritual journey since I feel way behind in that regard.
So back to what I said about the cliquish mentality. You just can't understand it if you haven't lived here. I've never seen anything like it, honestly. Yes, I've made friends, but I would say only 2-3 real ones, and even that is questionable. I've met many people that I thought could be friends, but I got tired of making all the effort, so they drifted away. Now by joining these small groups, I'm hoping true Christians will find friendships more meaningful, but no guarantees. Its also hard to meet them where they are in their spiritual journey since I feel way behind in that regard.
Your entire city is one big clique? You are a fortunate man to find two or three friends.
I see you need work on your spiritual journey. You are on a path unique to you, and you are not way behind anything.
You have to meet women on their turf. Women help others. Women volunteer their time.
My single, female Christian friends have a variety of interests organized through their churches, and in co-operation with different faiths. They are members of food banks. City gardens helping people feed themselves. Habitat for Humanity. Homeless Veterans initiatives. Delivering food to the home bound. True Christians? You decide.
Your entire city is one big clique? You are a fortunate man to find two or three friends.
I see you need work on your spiritual journey. You are on a path unique to you, and you are not way behind anything.
You have to meet women on their turf. Women help others. Women volunteer their time.
My single, female Christian friends have a variety of interests organized through their churches, and in co-operation with different faiths. They are members of food banks. City gardens helping people feed themselves. Habitat for Humanity. Homeless Veterans initiatives. Delivering food to the home bound. True Christians? You decide.
Good idea, and one of the few I haven't tried, as I'm trying to find a cause to be passionate about. I think delivering food to old people would make me feel great. Other than that, I'll just have to try a few things.
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