Hi,
You chose to marry your husband. Yes you had the option to divorce him when you found out about the adultery but at that point you chose to forgive. You cant then now say you have tried and then divorce your husband. GOD in this case will hold you accountable.
As the Holy Sciptures commands us (not advice us some people forget that Sripture is from GOD and hence a command that comes with consequences when broken and can cost where you spend eternity. Just ask Lucifer/satan and Adam&Eve)
Yes you are miserable and the Holy sciptures have told us what to do in this case. What do you do you say? You SEPERATE.
Why SEPERATE instead of DIVORCE? GOD already asnwered that in the Scriptues.
1Co 7:10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to leave her husband.
1Co 7:11 But, indeed, in case she does leave, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to send away his wife.
And remeber if you do decide not to go back know that you can not get remarried and will have to stay single. WHY? The Holy scriptures answer us again
1Co 7:13 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, if he is willing to live with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1Co 7:15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let them leave; a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us in peace.
1Co 7:16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
Thank GOD your husband is not an unbeliever. He just has flaws that can be changed by GOD not by you or by him. GOD will change him. GOD wants reconcilliation at all cost if possible. Adultery and desertion are the only grounds fro divorce and your husband has told you what he has done and you have forgiven which shows that you have Christ in you and doesnt mean you are weak.
Despite wahat people or your church advice. I believe you chose to forgive your husband out of yourlove and fear for GOD Almighty whom you love more than your husband.
You cannot then now divorce your husband after seperation because of how you feel. WHY? You made a covenant before GOD Almighty when you married your husband as wig GOD has the witness.
You choose whom you will obey? To please your feelings or to please GOD by Obeying His commandments.
Please, Please choose to abey GOD. You might think you dont love your husband but Jesus Christ can bring that love about. Concentrate on Loving GOD our Lord Jesus Christ your Saviour instead of trying to look for a way out in your current marriage. There is nothing to hard for Christ. That love you think you dont have Christ can bring it about.
Do not divore your husband but please obey GOD instead. this life is short compared to eternity.
Can I also point you to the site below where all this types of questions have been answered from a biblical point of you and not based on our feelings.
Please go to the link below that shows Q/A of people who ask similar questions
Answers to Questions: Topics Beginning with the Letter "D"
I had an affair and divorced my husband. Now I am married again. Is it wrong to stay married to this second man?
GOD Bless
What you need to remember is that when you stand before the LORD Jesus Christ you wont be judged based on your feeling but judged based on what you did in regards to following the Holy Scriptures and carrying your cross as your LORd and Master Jesus Christ did when he walked this earth that He created to die for your sins and mine and your husbands.
GOD Bless
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