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You can try. I wouldn't call one my students Mr. LastName. I would offer to address them by just their last name if they don't like their first name. For example, I was agree to call you "feed" instead of "Mr. feed". If you hold some rank (Dr, Colonel, etc.), I'll be willing to address you as such.
that's even more disrespectful. i would not call my professor Dick and he should not call me Dave. There is nothing wrong with Prof. Smith and Mr. Smith in the classroom. First names are for peers in an informal setting. i don't like such familiarity...my rank is Mr. Just as your's is Prof.
or they can not address me at all....it really irks me but i do not wish to be rude about my demand so i must couch it carefully.
that's even more disrespectful. i would not call my professor Dick and he should not call me Dave. There is nothing wrong with Prof. Smith and Mr. Smith in the classroom. First names are for peers in an informal setting. i don't like such familiarity...my rank is Mr. Just as your's is Prof.
or they can not address me at all....it really irks me but i do not wish to be rude about my demand so i must couch it carefully.
It is highly unusual for a prof to address a student by their Surname. I also think that calling profs by their first name is much more common then Dr. _______ but maybe that is regional. Quite honestly, wanting to be called Mr. Datafeed is kind of pretentious and probably won't put you in good standing with your profs, whom you will need down the road for job recommendations, etc. Gaining that familiarity is a good thing if you want a job some day .
Also, you don't have a "rank". You did nothing to earn your title of Mr. Sorry.
Why do you care?
Seems odd.
And I am an oddly formal person.
I don't get all these things. I have an M.D. and I don't even get bent over people not calling me, "Doctor Stan4."
It's like...geez, get over yourself.
It is highly unusual for a prof to address a student by their Surname. I also think that calling profs by their first name is much more common then Dr. _______ but maybe that is regional. Quite honestly, wanting to be called Mr. Datafeed is kind of pretentious and probably won't put you in good standing with your profs, whom you will need down the road for job recommendations, etc. Gaining that familiarity is a good thing if you want a job some day .
Also, you don't have a "rank". You did nothing to earn your title of Mr. Sorry.
No, I am not familiar with them--read first name basis--and they are not familiar with me. Not every prof has a PHd.
I am not asking you if it would make them uncomfortable to use proper manners. I assume, if I requested it they would have to comply.
Mr. is not a rank; it is formal manner of address.
I read a journal of higher ed forum on the matter and it appears that if one pays 46k a year for an education he is entitled to be called Mr.
If my prof addresses me by my first name I shall reciprocate.
I am not the typical student: I am veteran, former contractor who lost his hand serving his country, and in my early 30s.
Now when I went to catholic school I was always addressed Miss _______ would you please answer the question and they never forgot to put the Miss in front of our last name and we never forgot to address the nuns as sister and then their name . I rather think that was proper back then . I dont know where we lost civility towards each other but I think you are not wrong to want to be addressed as such .
Why do you care?
Seems odd.
And I am an oddly formal person.
I don't get all these things. I have an M.D. and I don't even get bent over people not calling me, "Doctor Stan4."
It's like...geez, get over yourself.
not the point, imagine if you were a black person whose ancestors had been called boy and by their first name until the late 1960s. if your grandpa who was lynched and called boy (and worse) told you never to be called by your first name by anyone other than your brothers, sisters, and parents, and perhaps closet friends what would you do.
what you want to be called and what i want to be called are not the same. is that a bad thing?
I assume if I told a professor this he would comply rather quickly..espcailly if one was polite and addressed him formally.
not the point, imagine if you were a black person whose ancestors had been called boy and by their first name until the late 1960s. if your grandpa who was lynched and called boy (and worse) told you never to be called by your first name by anyone other than your brothers, sisters, and parents, and perhaps closet friends what would you do.
what you want to be called and what i want to be called are not the same. is that a bad thing?
I assume if I told a professor this he would comply rather quickly..espcailly if one was polite and addressed him formally.
I don't dispute your right to your preferences, but this sounds more like a chip on your shoulders than a concern about manners.
It is highly unusual for a prof to address a student by their Surname. I also think that calling profs by their first name is much more common then Dr. _______ but maybe that is regional. Quite honestly, wanting to be called Mr. Datafeed is kind of pretentious and probably won't put you in good standing with your profs, whom you will need down the road for job recommendations, etc. Gaining that familiarity is a good thing if you want a job some day .
Also, you don't have a "rank". You did nothing to earn your title of Mr. Sorry.
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I don't dispute your right to your preferences, but this sounds more like a chip on your shoulders than a concern about manners.
^^^^agree. I'm not even sure if it's regional (maybe it is) but I wonder if the OP is originally from the
US. If not, it could be a cultural issue. Either way, it does sound like a superiority complex.
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