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I worked as a nursing assistant in a care center for the elderly when I became pregnant at age 20. An RN advised me to get an abortion because I was "too young" and she insisted that my then-boyfriend and I would end up splitting up and I'd regret having a child. I didn't listen to her, had my child (who is now 26) and I've been married to my husband for almost 27 years. No one should ever tell someone else what is the "right" thing for them to do because chances are, you'll be mistaken. Just like telling someone that they should opt for adoption over abortion is not your decision to make for them. You don't have all the facts of someone else's life, so it's not possible to know what's best for them.
This is old news. I saw a similar study done years ago. I don't understand how it is surprising to anyone. People who are dead against abortion generally don't have them. Duh.
Yes, that is my experience as well from those I have known over the decades. Actually never met one who did not regret the act.
The women who most likely don't regret their abortions aren't the ones who are out talking about it all the time. As we've seen in this thread, there's a huge stigma for women who've had the procedure, and there's perception that if they're not deeply solemnly regretful about it that they are horrible, unfeeling people. Probably the most vocal women are the ones who are now in pro-life set who use their past as propaganda.
I think you have to ask yourself what kind of woman would participate in the article to begin with.
The ones who deeply regretted it wouldn't even be admitting that it happened. The ones who would be open about it would be more likely to be ok with it.
A real survey would be talking to all the women who had abortions at a particular clinic one year ago/five years ago/ten years ago and see what their responses would be.
Its amusing that on other threads on the abortion topic anti-choice people claim that abortions are traumatic and women who get them have life long regrets and even emotional problems afterwards.
The happiest people/couples that I know are child free.
I find this to be generally true as well.
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My fiance and myself are childfree and have decided on keeping it that way. Much rather enjoy each other and travel the world. We prefer the freedom of being able to pick up and go as we please. Want to sleep in late on a saturday? We can do that. Want to take a spontaneous trip to the Caribbean? We can do that. Want to go skiing for the wknd because conditions are perfect? We can pick up and do that. Why burden ourselves with an unnecessary responsibility?
Childfree and loving it. Wouldn't have it any other way...
Excellent post! We're child-free and love it too!
I do pity some of my friends who are saddled with kids they pretend to like most of the time. There was an op-ed + study a year or two ago which compared parents to drug addicts. Parents put up with something that is for the most part a crappy, soul-sucking experience, just so they can have those occasional shining moments that make it "all worth it."
I find this to be generally true as well.Excellent post! We're child-free and love it too!
I do pity some of my friends who are saddled with kids they pretend to like most of the time. There was an op-ed + study a year or two ago which compared parents to drug addicts. Parents put up with something that is for the most part a crappy, soul-sucking experience, just so they can have those occasional shining moments that make it "all worth it."
No need for any "pity". Different strokes for different folks. We're happily married, with children. Your happiness is definitely no greater than ours (and our happiness isn't solely wrapped around being parents, btw).
I never did understand why certain childfree people feel the need to demonize children or parents or feel as if their lifestyle is superior. Having children is a personal lifestyle choice. If you don't want kids, don't have them. No one really cares. The irony of it all is that these same people were "soul sucking" "parasites" themselves. Unless an alien abducted them right after birth, some person or persons raised them and had to forego some of their "freedoms". Or maybe not, because often these people have parent issues somehow.
I never did understand why certain childfree people feel the need to demonize children or parents or feel as if their lifestyle is superior.
I don't demonize parents. I feel bad when they rarely get to go have fun or enrichening activities. But I find the opposite is true more often. I get demonized as well as discriminated against in the workplace and elsewhere due to not having produced copies of myself.
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Having children is a personal lifestyle choice.
Very true -- a kid is a LUXURY ITEM. Especially the second or third or beyond.
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