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age-appropriate clothing is what you should focus on, you're not a kid anymore. That's likely what your grandmother is trying to say...You don't have to give up jeans but a pair of smart leather booties is more appropriate than Uggs. Shop in stores that have styles for women your age. Walk about boutiques or review magazines and see what you like.
You're not the age range for junior size/style shopping. Jewelry not necessary if you don't care for it. Go for a more put together look than just throwing on comfort clothes. They look sloppy.
Have fun choosing clothing a bit more sophisticated.
Why?
I’m happy.
I don’t want leather booties, I like how warm UGGs are and TBH I don’t care if someone doesn’t like them. I dress to be warm in the winter. I have a pair of leather boots and they’re just not as comfortable.
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It could be a generational thing too. My mom tells me to cut my hair short, I am too old to have shoulder length hair. She has never stayed with the times, so I take her advice with a grain of salt.
To your friends your age dress the same?
Yeah. Majority of them. I know a few people who like to dress more girly but they’re few and far between.
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Frankly you sound like a lot of 30 somethings in New England I know. They do occasionally dress up and like summer type dresses and flats but very few wear heels thank god. For dinners and the like in the winter you might choose a nice sweater instead of a long sleeved shirt. Scarfs are also the thing it seems though not all can pull them off. You might choose fancier flip flops and a nice ankle boot for when you go out to dinner.
Yeah if it’s warm enough I’m in flip flops. I don’t like flats because I don’t like my feet getting hot. I’ve found what I like and I’m happy.
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You are right... It's a look I see all ages wearing from grade schoolers to 80+. Take off the UGGs and replace with athletic shoes and it sounds about what my late Mother usually wore and she was well into her 90s.
I have athletic shoes, I wear my UGGs when I don’t feel like my ankles being cold all day.
I get back cramps when I’m too cold.
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Oh my gosh, txtqueen is on the brink of her thirties? I suddenly feel very old.
Shhhh. So do I.
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First, instead of imagining what your grandmother thinks, why don't you ask her?
Personally, I think that at 30, you should be able to dress as an adult. Not in your leisure time, but at work, at least. Not jeans, not tanks. You're getting a little too old for "cute." It's possibly that although your grandmother's taste may be feminine, maybe all she wants is for you to look like an adult.
That doesn't mean looking matronly. But, yes, a little more tailored, a little better quality, a little more formal.
She’s showed me ideas. I’m not imagining what she said, that’s simply my description for her style.
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I'm still having a hard time getting a mental picture of what the OP's wearing and what the grandma is objecting to--can you find pics on Pinterest or shopping sites to show us what your outfits look like?
Yeah give me a minute, I have to refresh my memory on how to post photos here.
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I can so relate to this! Back issues, and podiatry issues are why I don't wear heels. Well, besides the fact that I've never been interested in them, anyway. Have you explained to your gran, that you can't wear heels, for medical reasons?
I know the correct answer is “whatever makes them happy” but I’m asking more along societal standards.
My grandmother sometimes makes comments about how I should dress “older” and I think by “older” she means more “feminine” and “frilly”.
In my opinion I don’t dress “boyish” but it’s also not overtly “girly”.
Instead of skinny jeans and a floral pattern blouse w/ heels and jewelry I’ll wear skinny jeans with a solid color shirt, UGGs, flip flops or basic shoes and I do my hair and make up.
I don’t wear graphic t’s, shirts with words, stuff written on my ass, etc.
Everything she shows me is always more dressy or more formal, slacks, frilly floral blouses, heels, jewelry and shirt that looks like it would wrinkle if you wore a jacket over it. I never go places where I would need to wear heels or wear a bunch of jewelry.
I go to the store, her doctor visits, my physical therapy and if/when I go out to dinner I have outfits that are super cute and don’t require looking like I’m headed to a receptionist job in the 70s.
I’d say jeans, leggings, solid color tanks, tees and long sleeves, shorts, some cute dresses, flannel button ups.
That’s all crap people in their late 20s and early 30s wear.
I mean she finds things at Chico’s she thinks would be cute and I haven’t see anyone my age at Chico’s.
I know she has the best of intentions but I don’t even have children yet and I’m not about to start dressing like I have 3 grandchildren.
Help?
How do I explain to her what I wear is on par for my age?
When she points people out to me they’re always older than me and she never agrees with me when I tell her that.
something tells me your grandma might not be able to grasp that you are an average 30 year old...... so just tell her you are so exceptional that you have to live up to the standards that you are SURE she stood for..... after all, grandma, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. smile. hug her. thank her for being who she was...... and continues to be.
Perhaps upgrade to some different boots that you can wear with socks. UGGs weren't a good look when they were the current trend. Even less so now.
To be honest, what you're describing sounds like what 20-somethings wear. You don't have to go old fashioned and stodgy, but your 30's might be time to consider polishing your look a little.
Why? She's not 50 or 60. Why should somebody completely reinvent their image, just because they enter another decade? Not much different between 28 and 30. If such a change is natural, then sure, but forcing it is just dumb.
Why?
I’m happy.
I don’t want leather booties, I like how warm UGGs are and TBH I don’t care if someone doesn’t like them. I dress to be warm in the winter. I have a pair of leather boots and they’re just not as comfortable.
Yeah if it’s warm enough I’m in flip flops. I don’t like flats because I don’t like my feet getting hot. I’ve found what I like and I’m happy.
I have athletic shoes, I wear my UGGs when I don’t feel like my ankles being cold all day.
I get back cramps when I’m too cold.
I'm still confused--do you not wear socks? I can't imagine only having UGGs and flip flops--it seems so limiting when there are so many kinds of cute, functional, and comfortable shoes out there.
Everybody wants to be comfortable, and you can definitely look like yourself and be pulled-together as well. You've shot down every idea that people have to update your look. Like it or not, your appearance is often the first impression people make of you, maybe your grandma is out of line, but maybe she isn't.
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Why? She's not 50 or 60. Why should somebody completely reinvent their image, just because they enter another decade? Not much different between 28 and 30. If such a change is natural, then sure, but forcing it is just dumb.
I don't recall ever saying that anyone should "completely reinvent their image."
Polishing your look isn't reinventing yourself. Don't over dramatize.
Is it possible that grandma is objecting OPs grooming, or lack thereof? But I still think that she gets to present herself to the world the way she wants. And Uggs are everywhere now. They should not be surprising to anyone.
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I know the correct answer is “whatever makes them happy” but I’m asking more along societal standards.
My grandmother sometimes makes comments about how I should dress “older” and I think by “older” she means more “feminine” and “frilly”.
In my opinion I don’t dress “boyish” but it’s also not overtly “girly”.
Instead of skinny jeans and a floral pattern blouse w/ heels and jewelry I’ll wear skinny jeans with a solid color shirt, UGGs, flip flops or basic shoes and I do my hair and make up.
I don’t wear graphic t’s, shirts with words, stuff written on my ass, etc.
Everything she shows me is always more dressy or more formal, slacks, frilly floral blouses, heels, jewelry and shirt that looks like it would wrinkle if you wore a jacket over it. I never go places where I would need to wear heels or wear a bunch of jewelry.
I go to the store, her doctor visits, my physical therapy and if/when I go out to dinner I have outfits that are super cute and don’t require looking like I’m headed to a receptionist job in the 70s.
I’d say jeans, leggings, solid color tanks, tees and long sleeves, shorts, some cute dresses, flannel button ups.
That’s all crap people in their late 20s and early 30s wear.
I mean she finds things at Chico’s she thinks would be cute and I haven’t see anyone my age at Chico’s.
I know she has the best of intentions but I don’t even have children yet and I’m not about to start dressing like I have 3 grandchildren.
Help?
How do I explain to her what I wear is on par for my age?
When she points people out to me they’re always older than me and she never agrees with me when I tell her that.
You just turned 30, not 70. CHICO's is not for people your age.
Continue to dress as you do. Times have changed. Get grandma a gift certificate to CHICO's and take her to shop with you at The Limited or American Eagle.
Lots of comfortable but more “pulled together” looks. Find some nice leather booties. Or some dressier knee boots. I love Uggs. I have many pair, I’m 68 and live on a mountain. I have their snow boots also. I always wear socks with them.
Not sure what kind of jewelry your grandmother likes, but pearls are big in fashion now.
No they don’t have to be the old fashion graduated pearl necklace.
Alegeria has comfortable flats and sandals that are more dressy than your run of the mill flip flops. I love wearing my fit flops and have some glitzy ones but it seems your grandmother doesn’t approve.
Lots of comfortable but more “pulled together” looks. Find some nice leather booties. Or some dressier knee boots. I love Uggs. I have many pair, I’m 68 and live on a mountain. I have their snow boots also. I always wear socks with them.
Not sure what kind of jewelry your grandmother likes, but pearls are big in fashion now.
No they don’t have to be the old fashion graduated pearl necklace.
Alegeria has comfortable flats and sandals that are more dressy than your run of the mill flip flops. I love wearing my fit flops and have some glitzy ones but it seems your grandmother doesn’t approve.
I know they are a little funky looking but are a good compromise with your bad back.
JJill I have shopped at many times. Simple, basic and usually well made. Try a little more polished look.
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