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Oh no, either I misstated what I meant, or you misunderstood. I meant to bring up that she could have a legitimate reason outside of mere convenience and not even know it. Ultimately She should be discussing her issues with a doctor/health proffesional, that I do encourage her to do.
Advice to someone as young as you needs to be tempered with a great deal of caution since you're way, way to young now to make this kind of life altering choice.
My advice is wait until you're at least 30 before you choose to decline to pass on your genes.
Periods get less crazy after 18 for a lot of people too even without any BC. A vasectomy and does not even come close to what a hysterectomy does. You can have a complication from that and be randomly peeing yourself and need surgical repair (fistula). Prolapsed vagina. Facial Hair. Bone thinning. etc.
I think by your responses you need to talk to a therapist. You wishes and responses are not healthy or normal.
Something else was mentioned as well. The idea of not needing an internal pelvic exam. I am assuming that the OP would like to keep her vagina, though at this point maybe there is something else going on and the answer is no?
I had surgical menopause 13 years ago. Uterus/cervix and ovaries. And if they don't take the ovaries you still have a hormonal cycle, just no bleeding.
I still have to get internal exams and they take a vaginal cuff smear every 5 years....the exam is a reality that very few women like but men get poked other places, too.
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A hysterectomy could possible leave you unable to have sex.
It has been know to happen that the Doctor closes up the area to much, leaving the woman with a very small vagina. And there goes your sex life.
You are in charge of your body, and you have to take the responsibility for bad decisions.
It seems to me that there might be deeper issues here than meets the eye. Her desire to not have exams, stop her periods and her absolute stance on not having kids seems a bit strong for someone her age. I'm not saying it's not her right to do what she wants (heaven knows there are enough unwanted children out there) but this decision could be life altering. I also thought at age 16 that I would be a single career woman with no marriage and kids in my future, yet two years later I met my future husband and all that changed.
If the OP has been traumatized in some way, like abuse, then it is important that she seek therapy first before making any tramatic decision like a hysterectomy. I would think any competent doctor would recommend the same if she presented her wishes to him/her. Also, seeking her answers from a forum makes me wonder if she has any supportive adults in her life who could help her through this.
I think by your responses you need to talk to a therapist. You wishes and responses are not healthy or normal.
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Originally Posted by grannynancy
Something else was mentioned as well. The idea of not needing an internal pelvic exam. I am assuming that the OP would like to keep her vagina, though at this point maybe there is something else going on and the answer is no?
I didn't realize I was that obvious. I actually want to get a sex change, as I feel I should've been a man, but from the research i've done I know that bottom surgery just isn't that great. So i'm still trying to decide if I should go ahead and see a transition therapist when i'm 18 and get started on testosterone as soon as possible or just continue cross dressing(as best I can without giving myself away to family...they wouldn't understand) and get rid of my period and possibly the ability to have kids(I'd do both if I transitioned).
It seems to me that there might be deeper issues here than meets the eye. Her desire to not have exams, stop her periods and her absolute stance on not having kids seems a bit strong for someone her age. I'm not saying it's not her right to do what she wants (heaven knows there are enough unwanted children out there) but this decision could be life altering. I also thought at age 16 that I would be a single career woman with no marriage and kids in my future, yet two years later I met my future husband and all that changed.
If the OP has been traumatized in some way, like abuse, then it is important that she seek therapy first before making any tramatic decision like a hysterectomy. I would think any competent doctor would recommend the same if she presented her wishes to him/her. Also, seeking her answers from a forum makes me wonder if she has any supportive adults in her life who could help her through this.
Well, there is definitly more to the story, just read my post above this one. But i've never been abused and as for supportive adults....my parents are old fashioned and wouldn't understand (I had to fight them just to let me get my hair cut really short).
I think your best bet is to reach out to the transgendered community as they may have the kind of information and support you need to help you.
I agree. Now that the OP has told us more of the story, we see more clearly her request for information.
I would also say to mintleif that finding a therapist (psychological counselor) would be invaluable to you in the process of getting what you want. Your parents may well be willing to pay for it without you having to explain everything to them. You could just give them the short version: something like you feel the need to talk to a professional because you are having identity issues or something. It wouldn't be a lie; you would be temporarily avoiding an issue that is sure to start an eruption within your family. Plus, a competent counselor would be able to help you find a way to share your news with your family at the right time and in a non-threatening manner. (Your desire to appear or be the opposite gender would probably be threatening to them.)
There must be free counseling available in most places, you might want to start there if you need to.
It's worth a try, anyway. I surely wouldn't want to appear to be telling you what to do... it's just food for thought. And I give you credit for reaching out in possibly one of the only ways that seem safe to you. At least you are trying to gather information so you can make good decisions.
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