Is there still "Minnesota nice" in the 21st Century? (to live in, moving)

[golfgal]

Originally Posted by doublesuited77

just moved to the twin cities a bit ago and i think there are often paralell communities in certain neighborhoods, native and non-natives. My wife and I have been able to make friends with our neighbors, however, they are virtually all from people who are non-natives.

It seems that native Minnesotans aren't interested in meeting new people and are often resentful of us our of towners. The reality is that on average, non-natives are better educated and a bit better off than the natives-- the only reason they are in the area is because of the great job opportunities.

That is an interesting observation and probably not even close to true but perhaps it is so in your neighborhood. As a whole, MN's are highly educated and probably better off then you think, they typically just don't flaunt it as much where as people moving in from other areas tend to buy the bigger homes, drive the fancier cars, etc. where as the natives have the larger retirement funds.

[Molly Costin]

I have lived in MN all of my life and I absolutely have nothing negative to say about my community and people that I meet. The store owners at local stores are always helpful and friendly, and people everywhere take the time to stop and ask you how you are and what is new in your life. People genuinely care here, I'm not saying they don't in other places... I don't claim to know about people from other states, but I do know about this one and love it!

I think we take MN Nice to heart and are proud of the way that we treat people. As someone posted earlier, treat people how you want to be treated! Life's too short to be mean and ungrateful for the things we are given!

I read a newspaper article lately that had to do with a drug bust in our area- the people growing the drugs moved here from another state and were busted because of their "lack of MN Nice"! eg. Turning neighbors away when they stopped in, wouldn't give someone lost directions. Serves you right!

[Molly Costin]

It seems that sometimes the people who are quick to point out other peoples faults are not generally the ones that know a whole lot about Minnesota nice, or nice in any state I guess. Everyone has faults, kids. If you're living in a community you don't enjoy you should relocate, whether it's somewhere in our great state or another! Life is too short! Enjoy!

[pirate_lafitte]

Originally Posted by Molly Costin

I have lived in MN all of my life and I absolutely have nothing negative to say about my community and people that I meet. The store owners at local stores are always helpful and friendly, and people everywhere take the time to stop and ask you how you are and what is new in your life. People genuinely care here, I'm not saying they don't in other places... I don't claim to know about people from other states, but I do know about this one and love it!

I think we take MN Nice to heart and are proud of the way that we treat people. As someone posted earlier, treat people how you want to be treated! Life's too short to be mean and ungrateful for the things we are given!

I read a newspaper article lately that had to do with a drug bust in our area- the people growing the drugs moved here from another state and were busted because of their "lack of MN Nice"! eg. Turning neighbors away when they stopped in, wouldn't give someone lost directions. Serves you right!

I see what you mean about being nice. I am fond of niceness. I also like my niceness to be real and from the heart. To me, being nice to someone isn't just about the "feel good" aspect. It is also about what is in the heart.

[Molly Costin]

Originally Posted by pirate_lafitte

I see what you mean about being nice. I am fond of niceness. I also like my niceness to be real and from the heart. To me, being nice to someone isn't just about the "feel good" aspect. It is also about what is in the heart.

Are you claiming to know what is in the heart of fellow citizens of my community? That would be odd....

Unless you live in my community and know the people that I am referring to I find it humorous that you would even respond.

[pirate_lafitte]

Originally Posted by Molly Costin

Are you claiming to know what is in the heart of fellow citizens of my community? That would be odd....

Unless you live in my community and know the people that I am referring to I find it humorous that you would even respond.

I am not claiming to know what is in anyone's heart. I am just saying niceness that comes from the heart is a wonderful thing.

[roneb]

Molly Costin, Perhaps the intent of the quote was misunderstood, but I didn't get the impression pirate_lafitte was intending to argue or disagree.

[pirate_lafitte]

Originally Posted by roneb

Molly Costin, Perhaps the intent of the quote was misunderstood, but I didn't get the impression pirate_lafitte was intending to argue or disagree.

I wasn't trying to argue or disagree. My intentions were to give my $0.02 about the topic.

[nextgirl]

When I moved here from the south I was told "Minnesota Nice" refers to people being "nice" but not really open to making new friends. I've found it is very true that most Minnesotans have all of their relatives and childhood friends around and are too busy with those relationships to make new ones. It hasn't been easy making friends. However, I have to believe that I'm not the only person new to the state, and there have to be SOME people looking for new friends. I've been told numerous times that "the first year you hate it, the second year you tolerate it, and the third year you love it." Really I think it's all what you make of it.

[thebeecharmer]

WOW molly aren't you condescending?!?!

you have just demonstrated Minnesota nice
I find YOU humorous!
thanks!