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I hear people say that they connect with high school friends on Facebook. It sounds like they had (have) quite a few friends. Not sure...I don't have a Facebook page and I don't go to high school reunions. So I'm not in the "loop."...I've been mostly a loner for my entire life. (With just a few friends or acqaintances here and there at times.).. I don't really know what's popular to say (or claim) today because I'm not part of the "general public" very often.
I was not popular in high school at all. I had a few friends here and there, but never any best friends. I was never in the group of giggling girls. No biggie.
Up till early 10th grade I went to school in Montreal. I was pretty unpopular there, for no reason that I could determine. Bullied quite a lot.
In November of 10th grade our family moved to Los Angeles. The reasons are irrelevant to this story.
I finished high school in Los Angeles. Nobody there knew me before 10th grade. I wouldn't say I was prom king there, but I was reasonably popular, had plenty of friends and certainly was never bullied.
I've never really been able to understand why the big difference.
My 10 year high school reunion is coming up this October and I've been kind of nostalgic lately. I was bullied BADLY in high school. My hair was forcibly cut off, my clothes were stolen in gym multiple times, my truck was keyed and I was made fun of to the point of dropping out Sophomore year and completing most of my studies in a continuation/alternative high school. I did one last semester in senior year so I could 'walk with my class' because it was important to my Mother. I basically hated everyone that went to that High School and while I feel slightly bad thinking this, looking up all those people on Facebook who made my life miserable in HS and seeing how they obviously peaked during those 4 years makes me feel a bit better.
I have come in contact (via FB) with a few people I went to HS with and some of them have joked about how WE were so unpopular and made fun of...no, you weren't unpopular just because you weren't super popular. You weren't bullied, you didn't have to drop out of school because someone decided to start a rumor that you had AIDS and peoples parents called the school and complained about their precious kids being in the same class as me. You didn't drop out of school and have people send your parents 'Sorry about your loss' cards and flowers because they thought I'd died.
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My 10 year high school reunion is coming up this October and I've been kind of nostalgic lately. I was bullied BADLY in high school. My hair was forcibly cut off, my clothes were stolen in gym multiple times, my truck was keyed and I was made fun of to the point of dropping out Sophomore year and completing most of my studies in a continuation/alternative high school. I did one last semester in senior year so I could 'walk with my class' because it was important to my Mother. I basically hated everyone that went to that High School and while I feel slightly bad thinking this, looking up all those people on Facebook who made my life miserable in HS and seeing how they obviously peaked during those 4 years makes me feel a bit better.
I have come in contact (via FB) with a few people I went to HS with and some of them have joked about how WE were so unpopular and made fun of...no, you weren't unpopular just because you weren't super popular. You weren't bullied, you didn't have to drop out of school because someone decided to start a rumor that you had AIDS and peoples parents called the school and complained about their precious kids being in the same class as me. You didn't drop out of school and have people send your parents 'Sorry about your loss' cards and flowers because they thought I'd died.
I was tall, and super thin/lanky with big poofy curly hair. For some reason once one targets you, the rest follow so once I was picked on by one popular girl, the rest just followed. It didn't help that I was smart and quiet either.... I 'ruined' the curve in many classes and got a lot of crap for it. Plus, I had scars from surgeries and medical problems where I was in and out of school often. Of course, kids can't just ask or assume the best, they had to assume I had some horrible comunicable disease and acted accordingly.
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I was tall, and super thin/lanky with big poofy curly hair. For some reason once one targets you, the rest follow so once I was picked on by one popular girl, the rest just followed. It didn't help that I was smart and quiet either.... I 'ruined' the curve in many classes and got a lot of crap for it. Plus, I had scars from surgeries and medical problems where I was in and out of school often. Of course, kids can't just ask or assume the best, they had to assume I had some horrible comunicable disease and acted accordingly.
Seriously? Really that bad? I was nerdy - well nerdy looking, at least - but wasn't really bullied. I was a loner and not anti-social, but was never seriously bullied. Maybe American schools are worse, I always assumed the movies exaggerated things for drama but you're telling me you got treated like s**t for that?
In a high school with a student body of 4200, I was unpopular, and I was fine with that. I've always been the person people didn't like for whatever reason. When asked, people couldn't give me an answer. It was usually, "I just don't like you." To this day, I'm not very popular wherever I go. I've always been a loner. I don't find anything wrong with loners, either.
It's been 11 years since I've graduated from high school. It's amazing to see where many of those popular people have gone in their lives. Most of them are alcoholics, pain med addicts, living a miserable life, have become fat and out of shape, divorced and being raped on child support, the former hot girls are mostly fat and nasty looking, and all they talk about is their years in high school. All they have are those years. They haven't done jack squat with themselves. Perhaps if they weren't too busy putting the outsiders down, they would have their stuff together during these trying times. I look at them and begin laughing.
Has anybody noticed the popular kids are usually the ones who are involved in fatal drunk driving accidents during their high school years?
I dont know if its cool, but I actually had a high school experience similiar to yours. I had zero friends (although I played rec baseball with a couple kids in my grade who became "aquaintances"), I slept through all my classes, was picked on a little bit in my freshmen and sophmore years, and instead of "hiding out" in my lunch period, I hid behind a medical condition in my senior year, and got half day releases one day, and I got put in a "special" study block that had 4 kids in it during the other day. I didnt have a car, I sort of had a girlfriend, if you count a long distance thing, wasnt allowed to play any school sports...etc etc.
I cant imagine why anyone would actually want that high school experience. I hated every single day of my life between the ages of 14 and 17.
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