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my suggestion would be to cut out the judgements and tone down your crappy attitude.
And if I don't tone down my crappy attitude, mom, what are you gonna do? Thanks for the suggestion, but my opinion still stands. Appreciate the feedback on this thread. Been interesting to say the least. Yeah, I'm a judgmental, honest b*tch who is picky about whom she associates with. But you're showing your hypocrisy and judging me just the same.
You are judging a person on one thing you hate. It doesn't matter your reasons, you stand by them. That's not necessarily a bad thing if you temper it with the whole picture. I don't think you have the whole picture and I think it will bite you eventually. I'm sure you can't fathom how...
And I certainly don't know you and couldn't give a whip about whether you tone down your attitude or not. I do think people you who might want to be friends with will notice that attitude and NOT want to be friends with you. You've gotten many replies (from non-smokers) who've said as much.
If I'm not mistaken, YOU asked for advice. YOU asked if you were too judgemental or snobby...um, I just gave my advice. Judging you? Not so much...rather, it's a moment where your written word gives off a LOT of tone that I personally don't care for...I'm sure if I met you in person, you'd give off a different vibe.
I do not think, and this is only my opinion, that you should just hate on people. Hate is more poisonous than the cigarettes you so despise. Again, I'm not sure you can fathom that, but my own experiences tell me otherwise. And I'm not saying you shouldn't be choosy about your friends. And I'm not saying you should put yourself in a physical place that makes you physically sick. What I am saying is that you patently shun a group of people, with no individual thought and a whole lot of mistaken beliefs.
Some of the things you've written are just plain wrong...but hey, feel free to be judgy all you want. When people turn that back you, I hope you're prepared. I'm still irritated you called me mom...again, with your snap (and incorrect) judgements about people, I honestly don't think your "gut" is going to prove useful to you.
Yep and you had two people who you counted as friends that you would describe as lazy slobs, who leeched off of you and a psycho emo vampire who needed a pschotherapist
Yet despite that, the characteristic you note for "divorcing" them is that they smoked......
Sounds like you have a stable of winners around you - given your tone on this thread that is really not surprising, you seem so pleasant................
I like health conscious people. Detest cigarettes. I've had a few acquaintances who smoke and they just gross me out. One even asked to borrow money because she didn't have cash on her for her filthy habit...never paid me back either.
Am I way too picky to only want non-smokers in my close circle of friends?
I'm curious as to why you bothered starting this thread in the first place?
You obviously had the answer you wanted prior to asking the question.
You are judging a person on one thing you hate. It doesn't matter your reasons, you stand by them. That's not necessarily a bad thing if you temper it with the whole picture. I don't think you have the whole picture and I think it will bite you eventually. I'm sure you can't fathom how...
And I certainly don't know you and couldn't give a whip about whether you tone down your attitude or not. I do think people you who might want to be friends with will notice that attitude and NOT want to be friends with you. You've gotten many replies (from non-smokers) who've said as much.
If I'm not mistaken, YOU asked for advice. YOU asked if you were too judgemental or snobby...um, I just gave my advice. Judging you? Not so much...rather, it's a moment where your written word gives off a LOT of tone that I personally don't care for...I'm sure if I met you in person, you'd give off a different vibe.
I do not think, and this is only my opinion, that you should just hate on people. Hate is more poisonous than the cigarettes you so despise. Again, I'm not sure you can fathom that, but my own experiences tell me otherwise. And I'm not saying you shouldn't be choosy about your friends. And I'm not saying you should put yourself in a physical place that makes you physically sick. What I am saying is that you patently shun a group of people, with no individual thought and a whole lot of mistaken beliefs.
Some of the things you've written are just plain wrong...but hey, feel free to be judgy all you want. When people turn that back you, I hope you're prepared. I'm still irritated you called me mom...again, with your snap (and incorrect) judgements about people, I honestly don't think your "gut" is going to prove useful to you.
Yes, and there's a word for that mindset, it starts with a B, and it doesn't rhyme with witch (though that might apply, as well), it rhymes with spigot.
Well, that would be the same thing as me not having people who wear perfume as my friends, I find most cloying and stinky.
I wouldn't do that because I value my friends. And I wouldn't employ that for new people I meet either, because it assumes that everything is all about me, and it isn't.
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Well, that would be the same thing as me not having people who wear perfume as my friends, I find most cloying and stinky.
I wouldn't do that because I value my friends. And I wouldn't employ that for new people I meet either, because it assumes that everything is all about me, and it isn't.
It's not all about you????
It also assumes that you are perfect...which I think the OP might think she is...
I couldn't rep you again, but good point!
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