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I live with friends, a married couple of 55 and 53, and her son who is 32.
My friends have been married for a loooooong time and they basically annoy the carp out of each other every single day.
My friend is a tiny little dynamo who takes care of everyone and is very very sweet, but lately she has been an absolute biatch. Very swift mood changes, quite startling. She doesn't sleep very well or eat very much, she gets up at 4am to cook for her son and husband who don't even thank her (she is traditional like that).
She got very depressed and started crying a lot and the doctor put her on antidepressants.
Since the first day she calmed down, slept better, ate more, yelled less.
The trouble is, she doesn't want to take them. I know she's run out and this morning she was roaring again. I've tried to tell her they don't work like aspirins, you can't just take them randomly, but she won't listen.
Advice anyone? She is capable of ruining everyone's day including the dogs.
Sounds like menopause to me. And her doctor sounds like a goober. They throw antidepressants at everyone for any reason, when the reality is that she probably needs some hormone therapy. ESTROGEN PLEASE!
Yes, I suspect menopause, not depression, and now it's in the news how many more women now die from prescription drugs -- so it's probaby best that she not get hooked on those drugs.
I live with friends, a married couple of 55 and 53, and her son who is 32.
My friends have been married for a loooooong time and they basically annoy the carp out of each other every single day.
My friend is a tiny little dynamo who takes care of everyone and is very very sweet, but lately she has been an absolute biatch. Very swift mood changes, quite startling. She doesn't sleep very well or eat very much, she gets up at 4am to cook for her son and husband who don't even thank her (she is traditional like that).
She got very depressed and started crying a lot and the doctor put her on antidepressants.
Since the first day she calmed down, slept better, ate more, yelled less.
The trouble is, she doesn't want to take them. I know she's run out and this morning she was roaring again. I've tried to tell her they don't work like aspirins, you can't just take them randomly, but she won't listen.
Advice anyone? She is capable of ruining everyone's day including the dogs.
Unless you and the family can help convince her that the meds are more than just to control her moods....there is likely a chemical disorder...there may be nothing you can do.
Actually this is typical of some folks who take their meds long enough to feel better, than convince themselves they are well.
It is the bain of mental health. Non-compliance is a major issue.
But, with the laws that we have, she has the right to refuse. It is a catch 22....
Hopefully these links, or further research will give you some ideas or ammunition to tackle this. Medication noncompliance among mentally ill - MENTAL ILLNESS POLICY ORG. Issues of non-compliance in mental health. [J Adv Nurs. 1998] - PubMed - NCBI http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1046/j.1365-2648.1998.00787.x/abstract
I live with friends, a married couple of 55 and 53, and her son who is 32.
My friends have been married for a loooooong time and they basically annoy the carp out of each other every single day.
My friend is a tiny little dynamo who takes care of everyone and is very very sweet, but lately she has been an absolute biatch. Very swift mood changes, quite startling. She doesn't sleep very well or eat very much, she gets up at 4am to cook for her son and husband who don't even thank her (she is traditional like that).
She got very depressed and started crying a lot and the doctor put her on antidepressants.
Since the first day she calmed down, slept better, ate more, yelled less.
The trouble is, she doesn't want to take them. I know she's run out and this morning she was roaring again. I've tried to tell her they don't work like aspirins, you can't just take them randomly, but she won't listen.
Advice anyone? She is capable of ruining everyone's day including the dogs.
That sounds more like anxiety meds than antidepressants.
An antidepressant takes awhile to get into the system and out of the system. They don't work right away, and if you stop taking them don't get out of your system that quickly. Usually about 3 weeks on either end.
That being said it could be change of life.
You don't say why you're living with them, but I would tell her to talk to her doctor and as one poster suggested help around the house, go for a walk with her.
If you're going to continue to stay there, help in any way you can to ease her stress, and although it might not do much good talk to the husband and adult son about helping out around the house.
I live with friends, a married couple of 55 and 53, and her son who is 32.
My friend is a tiny little dynamo who takes care of everyone and is very very sweet, but lately she has been an absolute biatch. Very swift mood changes, quite startling. She doesn't sleep very well or eat very much, she gets up at 4am to cook for her son and husband who don't even thank her (she is traditional like that).
My first question is, is there a reason that her son age 32, is still living with them?
Does her husband still work outside the home, or is she running around all day waiting hand and foot on everyone in the house..with no appreciation.
Maybe you could talk to her about whats going on, and why she gets so upset. There must be something that is irritating her, and you should probably look for a different place to live as well. Good luck!!
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