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If when you speak your mind it's usually negative, rants or complaining and I hate this and I hate people who do this and that, then that is negative. If you focus on what has or might go wrong, then yes that is negative. Do YOU think you are a positive, upbeat person? Do you raise the good vibe when you're around people, or bring it down?
My ex used to be that way. We'd be driving somewhere and he'd be bitching about everything along the way. It was like he only noticed what was wrong with the world. It was very draining and depressing being around him and one of the reasons I fell out of love with him. I don't even know if he realized what a horrible habit it had become.
Some people find it odd that I speak my mind because I don't filter myself like most people do because I don't feel like sugar coating the truth. Sometimes people have called me so negative and gave me weird looks.
My closest friends understand that it's just how I am.
I prefer to just tell you the direct truth so they don't waste any time trying to figure out what I meant or assuming the wrong thing by believing I meant something when I didn't.
If when you speak your mind it's usually negative, rants or complaining and I hate this and I hate people who do this and that, then that is negative. If you focus on what has or might go wrong, then yes that is negative. Do YOU think you are a positive, upbeat person? Do you raise the good vibe when you're around people, or bring it down?
I'm a "Call it like I see it" type of dude- I express appreciation/admiration for plenty of things, but I don't hold back if I don't like something either. The latter seems to be discouraged in American society, though I've noticed people seem to be more open to it in Britain/Germanic Europe. If any of you watch NBA basketball, I'm a bit like Jeff Van Gundy.
Also I have to wonder if some of the perceived "negativity" in my remarks is due to my appearance and voice.
Some people find it odd that I speak my mind because I don't filter myself like most people do because I don't feel like sugar coating the truth. Sometimes people have called me so negative and gave me weird looks.
My closest friends understand that it's just how I am.
I prefer to just tell you the direct truth so they don't waste any time trying to figure out what I meant or assuming the wrong thing by believing I meant something when I didn't.
Telling the truth and being positive are not mutually exclusive. You can be direct with people while not using a negative way of saying it. It's called tact, and use of it doesn't mean you're indirect or dishonest. Otherwise, you're just being a bully and dismissing it as "that's just how I am". JMO.
I'm a "Call it like I see it" type of dude- I express appreciation/admiration for plenty of things, but I don't hold back if I don't like something either. The latter seems to be discouraged in American society, though I've noticed people seem to be more open to it in Britain/Germanic Europe. If any of you watch NBA basketball, I'm a bit like Jeff Van Gundy.
Also I have to wonder if some of the perceived "negativity" in my remarks is due to my appearance and voice.
You didn't answer my question. Do YOU think you are a positive, optimistic, upbeat person or a more often negative person?
As far as appearance, do you smile or do you appear to scowl? Do you have a unibrow?
You didn't answer my question. Do YOU think you are a positive, optimistic, upbeat person or a more often negative person?
As far as appearance, do you smile or do you appear to scowl? Do you have a unibrow?
I don't think of myself as positive or negative, I go through the whole spectrum with the ups and downs of life, just like anyone else. I don't like to fake being happy when I'm not, which might be a problem, but that's how I roll.
Appearance wise, you know the whole "B--chy resting face" meme? I kinda got the "Angry black man resting face" thing going, and I can't really do the fake/Duchenne smile.
I used be that way....so much negative stuff came out of my mouth.
Lost a relationship because of it...I cringe at how I sounded...sigh.
No more...because I stop the stinkin thinkin in my mind now.
Who knew you could control your thoughts and switch them to kind, happy, fun
thoughts!
I am the happiest most content person I know....my friends see a huge difference....
they love being around me now and told me I am the only person they know that is happy
and not complaining about something....what a pleasure to hear me just answer the phone!
Bad thoughts are a choice...I never knew that till about 2006-7.
Now my choices keep me very happy and clear and confident.
And I laugh a lot!!!......now.
I just find it interesting that I've never seen a discussion about "speaking one's mind" be about being compelled to put a positive spin on something.
It always seems to be about one's compulsion to talk something down, be a wet blanket, or over-emphasize what may go "wrong" in a situation.
And then comes the obligatory "I'm just a realist" defense.
There's a lot of happy, good stuff in the world to "speak your mind" about.
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