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Excluding my twin brother there is no one from high school that I remember or care to see again in my life. It was a horrible time for me and it is over and done with and I have moved on with my life. Just not interested in being around people that I never really knew.
I was talking to a girl the other day that is on her HS reunion planning committee. Their 30 year reunion is coming up in a couple of weeks. I asked her how many people are planning on attending and she said about 25-30 out of a class of about 300.
I got to thinking and wondering since Facebook has come to be, do you think that maybe that's why people aren't as interested in their high school reunions as people seemed to be in the past? People can go on Facebook and find a lot of info about their classmates i.e. what they are up to, look like, kids, spouse, etc.
I think this is a big reason as it is much easier to keep track of people who move than it was during letter writing days.
Wow people are negative on this subject! Hey, I had my share of lonely nights in Highschool, but 10 or 20 yrs later it is time to get over it. People change. Almost everyone has been pulled in a different direction by the time you reunite. I look at it as a special bond of sorts; you are revisiting a period of your life with a group of other people that shared it with you. I had inly1 or 2 friends in highschool but I am really curious to see how everyone turned out.
Wow people are negative on this subject! Hey, I had my share of lonely nights in Highschool, but 10 or 20 yrs later it is time to get over it. People change. Almost everyone has been pulled in a different direction by the time you reunite. I look at it as a special bond of sorts; you are revisiting a period of your life with a group of other people that shared it with you. I had inly1 or 2 friends in highschool but I am really curious to see how everyone turned out.
I agree. We all change over the years, and you may find that you can strike up a nice friendship with a person that you didn't click with back in high school. Better to keep a positive attitude and an open mind than cling to negative feelings from the past.
As I've said overandoverandoverandover on the many, many threads about class reunions, they get better with time. Lots better.
People change, folks. Ten-year-reunions are pretty useless - post-twenty-year-reunions are memorable.
So - if you've only been out of high school for ten years or less, take heart. Life continues and it continues to offer choices and opportunities and surprises. People grow and mature and turn into far more interesting versions of themselves at 38, 48, 58, and 68 than they were at 18 or 28. Given that improved human material, reunions get better, too, assuming the planners do their job and get adequate input (not just hands-on help, but suggestions and comments about suggestions) from their classmates.
So even if you have bad memories of high school, try attending your twentieth+ reunion, just to see what's happened with your classmates since then. Be open. Be receptive. Be polite and interested. Be honest, too - it's okay to let people know your high school years were not your best years, but leave old grudges and hurts at home for at least the event. If you really want to hang onto them afterwards, that's your call. But for just that one night, or one weekend - be open-minded, show interest in other people, and see what happens.
I don't think you'll regret it.
This is a good post. I don't think anything of going to a reunion now, but I've considered I might feel differently and more interested by the 20 or 30th reunion instead.
Why are you so obsessed with this? You sound like some pseudo psychologist offering your "advice" and insight on my feelings. You have no idea as to who I liked or didn't like or what my experiences were in high school.
Because it's a forum where, you know, people are supposed to provide opinions, not just give you a golf clap or a pat on the back. Oh, and given that the subject of this is about relationships, we're supposed to give advice about relationships. Did you not understand this?
What's more, unless your senior prom resembled something out of Carrie, I'm pretty sure you're not all that unique in your experiences. All but a very small minority of people encountered jerks in high school. Yet those awful people have a way of becoming humble later on in life or become remarkably better opinions.
And, quite frankly, if your high school experiences were such a wretched time in your life, then it's probably an even better idea to go to purge whatever inner demons you have. Or you can spend the rest of your life nursing petty grudges and magnifying whatever happened to you. Now this is where you predictably say, "Oh, I'm over it, those people don't matter to me any more." But that's likely nonsense given the anger you have over it all.
Because it's a forum where, you know, people are supposed to provide opinions, not just give you a golf clap or a pat on the back. Oh, and given that the subject of this is about relationships, we're supposed to give advice about relationships. Did you not understand this?
What's more, unless your senior prom resembled something out of Carrie, I'm pretty sure you're not all that unique in your experiences. All but a very small minority of people encountered jerks in high school. Yet those awful people have a way of becoming humble later on in life or become remarkably better opinions.
And, quite frankly, if your high school experiences were such a wretched time in your life, then it's probably an even better idea to go to purge whatever inner demons you have. Or you can spend the rest of your life nursing petty grudges and magnifying whatever happened to you. Now this is where you predictably say, "Oh, I'm over it, those people don't matter to me any more." But that's likely nonsense given the anger you have over it all.
I would say most people are angry that you are psychoanalyzing them based on the fact that they do not wish to go to their high school reunion. Only on CD can people make such a big deal out of this...lol. Whether people decide to go or not go is not some life or death experience.
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