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I admire the OP's sense of urgency, I too hate people taking forever, like doing the lotto, when I"m trying to get in and out, my issues are inherently selfish, the OP's is just neurotic, and hilariously sad.
OP, I try to do all the things you said in your original post to be considerate of other people, minus all the apologizing. That seems unnecessary.
But I try not to get bent out of shape if I have to wait on someone to get something done. Especially if it's an older person or someone who looks like they may have some physical or mental challenges. If all of life's little inconveniences get to you, you're going to feel aggravated and pissed off all the time.
Have you ever tried meditation? I've found some of the techniques very helpful in stressful situations and you can practice them without anyone knowing.
On the one hand, it is good to be aware of your surroundings and to go through your day efficiently and politely, but on the other, you don't need to feel apologetic for taking up time and space. You don't need to feel bad about taking as much time as it takes to get through the line at the grocery store, not to dawdle, but to get your stuff bagged and paid for. You don't need to feel guilty about using an armrest in a waiting room--you've got as much right to it as the next guy.
In the big picture I get what your saying. I often worry about boring people with long drawn out stories and often attempt to get to the point of a convo fairly fast because of it.
I worry about taking too long at the checkout line trying to get my money back into my wallet or whatever, sign the credit card receipt. I wouldn't think of writing checks anymore cause it seems like it takes forever, specially when someone sits there and makes the entry into their register while everyone is standing around waiting.
All that being said... I think you need to do a little meditation.... LOL... sound wound pretty tight..
I wouldn't applaud you. You weren't doing it to be nice and if you actually SAID that to someone I'd find it condescendingly rude. I have paid for plenty of customers few cents if they don't have it but I'd never dream of saying such a thing...or even thinking it. I carry change in my pocket just for such things. It's against company policy but I'm NOT going to make someone chose what to put back for 50 cents or a dollar.
You're totally misunderstanding. I'm talking about a person who argues with the cashier about how some price came up. It's not that they don't have the money; it's that they are quibbling about a few cents. hey get rude with the cashier, as if it's their fault, and they hold up all the people behind them because their total is a few cents more than what they'd wanted. THOSE are the people I'd do it to (hand them $2 because they are holding us all up over 60 cents).
You are missing up two different situations: in some cases, I do give someone a little bit of money just to be nice. In cases like the one above, I am not doing it to be nice, but to make a point. I would never just be rude to an innocent person, just a self-important person who believes they are more important than everyone else.
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