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I live in a typical 3/2 house and one of the bedrooms is used as an office. I used to use one of the BRs as a guest room but since I've retired I'm renting the extra room and bath and I really enjoy the extra income. The last few times I've had visitors they just got a B&B and we had a lovely visit. The friend who's coming this weekend has more money than God but wants to sleep on my sofa. I HATE people sleeping in my living room, there's no way to hide the mess, plus I don't like sharing a bathroom. Is there any clever witty way to tell her she should get a hotel from now on?? Or am I just becoming an old grump? Your input very much appreciated.
I do!
DH and I LOVE having guests stay over... makes spending time with them so much easier. And it ends up being cheaper, as we are then more prone to just cook at home.
But I do not have your setup.
My guests have a bedroom, and we do not share a bathroom.
Yes, I have a friend who really, really likes having houseguests.
I don't know about clever and witty, but the question of turning down a house guest is often dealt with in etiquette columns and etiquette books, so I'm sure a little research could provide you with a good solution.
Overall no, I don't like house quests but then I have a 1 BR apt. I have one friend who I do really like to visit as we are so alike and time just flies when we are together. She doesn't mind being cramped, she likes my cats AND she knows when to leave!!! The last time she was supposed to visit, she had to cancel and I actually was very disappointed. I never feel that way even with my family!!
I can't stand pushy people especially when they can afford to stay in a hotel. Can't you tell whomever it is that with the boarder it gets a bit crowed, or overwhelming for you and she/he would be more comfortable in a hotel?
I do not like having house guests. Dh and I are both introverts, I am not a natural hostess...We have our own routines here, and it's hard to involve someone else into them.
I do have extended family members who think nothing of asking if they can come to stay at our house while they're in town on other business or whatever. I am not comfortable with someone inviting themselves to stay at someone else's house - puts the potential host family on the spot, so to speak. I would rather that the traveler ask if s/he could take the family out for dinner/coffee/whatever while they're in town, and then leave it up to the local family to extend the invitation to stay at their house...
When someone asks if they can spend the night at our house, we usually just tell them that we have other plans. If they can afford to travel, I think they can afford to stay in a hotel or even camp some place. Makes it easier on everyone.
This might be slightly off topic, but I don't think ANYONE should just invite themselves to stay with someone, relative or friend.
Our first Christmas after we adopted out kids, my husband's brother and his wife, who lived about 200 miles away from us, just invited themselves to spend Christmas week with us -- "Don't go to any trouble, the [sleeper] sofa will be just fine!" However, I said very bluntly, "No, sorry, but this is our first Christmas with the kids, and we want it to be just us this year, but we will be happy to get a hotel room for you and split the cost with you, and you will be welcome to come over in the afternoons." They turned us down, and there were no hard feelings, but sometimes people will try to impose, even if their intentions are good.
I live in a typical 3/2 house and one of the bedrooms is used as an office. I used to use one of the BRs as a guest room but since I've retired I'm renting the extra room and bath and I really enjoy the extra income. The last few times I've had visitors they just got a B&B and we had a lovely visit. The friend who's coming this weekend has more money than God but wants to sleep on my sofa. I HATE people sleeping in my living room, there's no way to hide the mess, plus I don't like sharing a bathroom. Is there any clever witty way to tell her she should get a hotel from now on?? Or am I just becoming an old grump? Your input very much appreciated.
No, I don't love the experience of house guests. I feel a weight lift off my shoulders when they leave. One time our guests left and I noticed my cat suddenly sprawed out in total relaxation and I realized he was relieved too.
Maybe I'm a grump too, but those are my honest feelings (that I keep to myself).
I think in some families it is "expected" that when traveling, you will contact the local friends/family for an invite to a meal or overnight. My dh was raised that way; when his family traveled every summer they usually stayed with friends/family along the route. And they had 6 children, it was no small thing for them to spend the night with a local family.
I am just not comfortable with people, even family members who invite themselves.
Right now I think the only way we will ever have houseguests again is if we buy a property with a detached casita.
That way they have their privacy and we have ours. And we can arrange to meet up for whatever, whenever.
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