My teacher asked me my race and I stormed out (adults, business) - Non-Romantic Relationships -Issues with friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances - Page 4 - City-Data Forum

Einhander · 11-15-2018, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by redplum33

My conclusion was clearly accurate based on the rest of your response.

Is this why you are so interested in learning about your ancestors?

You're making me feel uncomfortable.

BirdieBelle · 11-15-2018, 04:45 PM

If you just want to complain and don't want advice, you should just use the blog feature here.

buildings_and_bridges · 11-15-2018, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by karen_in_nh_2012

What is her race? What is your race?

Why would an adult think it's appropriate or polite to ask these questions?

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I read the opening post and could not believe how much drama you created. You "stormed out"? Seriously?

How about the drama the teacher might have created by asking the OP their race? What's next--ask students their sexual orientation?

redplum33 · 11-15-2018, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by redplum33

My conclusion was clearly accurate based on the rest of your response.

Is this why you are so interested in learning about your ancestors?

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Originally Posted by Einhander

You're making me feel uncomfortable.

That wasn't my intention. I'll drop out of this thread.

(I assumed you started this thread because you wanted to discuss this.)

Mikala43 · 11-15-2018, 04:58 PM

Don't come to Hawaii! That's a commonly asked question.

Was it appropriate for the teacher? Really can't tell because the OP does not want to share the details.

I can think of lots of conversations where it would be germane to the conversation. If someone asked me if I was mixed race, it wouldn't bother me in the least.

PriscillaVanilla · 11-15-2018, 05:03 PM

Was it a teacher or professor in a college/university?

I would tell them it's none of their business. What kind of class is this?

Einhander · 11-15-2018, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by buildings_and_bridges

Why would an adult think it's appropriate or polite to ask these questions?

How about the drama the teacher might have created by asking the OP their race? What's next--ask students their sexual orientation?

Exactly. Why is it okay to ask someone their race but not okay to ask them their sexual orientation?

buildings_and_bridges · 11-15-2018, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikala43

Don't come to Hawaii! That's a commonly asked question.

I didn't realize that.

Maybe some of this is cultural/regional. Maybe the teacher is from a place where it's not seen as so intimate a question.

RcHydro · 11-15-2018, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Mikala43

Don't come to Hawaii! That's a commonly asked question.

Was it appropriate for the teacher? Really can't tell because the OP does not want to share the details.

I can think of lots of conversations where it would be germane to the conversation. If someone asked me if I was mixed race, it wouldn't bother me in the least.

This how you answer that race question. State your race and be proud. It does sound like the teacher was being a jerk about it, if she rolled her eyes and chuckled.

Mikala43 · 11-15-2018, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by buildings_and_bridges

I didn't realize that.

Maybe some of this is cultural/regional. Maybe the teacher is from a place where it's not seen as so intimate a question.

We are so mixed we all look alike.

Grab at least three and mix well: Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Filipino, Polynesian, Portuguese, and add a dash of some random Caucasian flavoring; and, voila!

I am Mexican, Swedish and English, so I blend in.