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I don't know why her question upsets you. It seems an innocent enough question. Could it be you just don't like her and would be offended by most anything she asked you? Whatever the answer, I hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
OP, I feel for you & hope you can come to a solution that doesn't make things hard for you down the road w/ this teacher. Something kind of similar happened in my life, which you can read in the link below.
And for people who think that a person "must be ashamed of their race" if they don't want to reveal their race, those people just don't get it & may probably never understand because you're NOT a mixed race person yourself. You all need to read this thread & especially my post over there & I explain why which is post #99 on page 10:
What, just because it's not obvious what race we are, we MUST tell people because they ask?! F that! It's none of their business & who are they, the big bosses are something?!
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She asked in front of everyone.
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She asked in front of everyone.
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I like to just fit in with everyone. Usually I'm not questioned, she seemed nosey. She talks about her own race a lot and even seems to stereotype herself a lot.
And when she tried to put me in that same category, it got me mad, that's what I felt she was trying to do.
This person calls herself a teacher?! Totally, totally inappropriate & downright wrong the way she's being!
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You just wanted to vent if you're just going to fight with the respondents.
And OP does not want to answer very basic questions so we could actually understand the situation.
For example (as I asked earlier): what is the teacher's race? (The OP says she talks about her race a lot.) What is the OP's race? (Oops, I probably made him uncomfortable again.) What was the "paper" about? What was the reading about that the paper was going to be based on? Answers to all of these would actually give us context for understanding what the OP is trying to say. Without more info, and with his statement about "storming out" and being so uncomfortable, it sounds like he created drama where none was intended.
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Why would an adult think it's appropriate or polite to ask these questions?
How about the drama the teacher might have created by asking the OP their race? What's next--ask students their sexual orientation?
I am a college professor and we talk about issues of race, social class, gender, sexual orientation, nationality, etc. all the time. It's a very appropriate question/discussion in many types of classes.
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This how you answer that race question. State your race and be proud. It does sound like the teacher was being a jerk about it, if she rolled her eyes and chuckled.
I got the impression that the teacher was chuckling about the "maybe I'll partially relate" response from the OP. But again, he's given us so little to go on ...
And OP does not want to answer very basic questions so we could actually understand the situation.
For example (as I asked earlier): what is the teacher's race? (The OP says she talks about her race a lot.) What is the OP's race? (Oops, I probably made him uncomfortable again.) What was the "paper" about? What was the reading about that the paper was going to be based on? Answers to all of these would actually give us context for understanding what the OP is trying to say. Without more info, and with his statement about "storming out" and being so uncomfortable, it sounds like he created drama where none was intended.
I don't want to tell you my race. I don't know what the paper was about, because I stormed out before I read it. She said I might relate to it though.
I am a college professor and we talk about issues of race, social class, gender, sexual orientation, nationality, etc. all the time. It's a very appropriate question/discussion in many types of classes.
Well, she could have discussed this with me privately. She's too race obsessed.
I got the impression that the teacher was chuckling about the "maybe I'll partially relate" response from the OP. But again, he's given us so little to go on ...
Tomorrow I'm going to tell her how uncomfortable she made me.
Look, OP, you are kind of a drama queen. You're always taking offense at stuff and overreacting. But I do think your teacher was completely inappropriate. By storming out, you ceded even more power to her. You could have simply made her uncomfortable by saying "That's an inappropriate question. I don't represent people like me - you would only get my perspective, not the perspective of a group. Mixed race people are not a monolith."
One of my classmates from high school is black. I will never forget the discomfort I saw on many faces when during a discussion about race relations, she stood up and said "I don't represent all black people. Stop asking my opinion as a black person."
I am a college professor and we talk about issues of race, social class, gender, sexual orientation, nationality, etc. all the time. It's a very appropriate question/discussion in many types of classes.
It's possible to have these discussions without asking the students those personal questions too. I managed to earn three (humanities) degrees and participate in many class discussions on these subjects without any of my professors asking me my race, orientation, income, religion, etc. in class. I even took courses called "Contemporary African American Drama" and "Gay and Lesbian Literature" without the professors asking students to reveal personal information about their race or orientation at any point in time.
It's possible to have these discussions without asking the students those personal questions too. I managed to earn three (humanities) degrees and participate in many class discussions on these subjects without any of my professors asking me my race, orientation, income, religion, etc. in class. I even took courses called "Contemporary African American Drama" and "Gay and Lesbian Literature" without the professors asking students to reveal personal information about their race or orientation at any point in time.
Again, it depends on the class, the topic, the readings, the assignments, etc. As I said, we need more context to understand whether the teacher WAS being completely inappropriate or if the OP is creating unnecessary drama. The OP doesn't answer very basic questions that would GIVE us such context ... and of course all we have is his side.
Look, OP, you are kind of a drama queen. You're always taking offense at stuff and overreacting."
+1.
Espcially to those who don't answer his FB messages...
AGAIN, was this in the bizarre free relationship/join our church class?
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