When friendships fade away, do you welcome former friends who reach out to you? (boyfriend, siblings)
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Like all of us, I’ve had a few friendships fade away, and the fading was clearly intended by the former friend. There was no falling out and the friend didn’t move; it was just clear that the friendship quietly ended. No discussion and no hard feelings; it happens.
Twice recently, the former friend has reached out (by email) to get together. We’re all straight middle-aged guys and perhaps they were short of friends and figured that maybe rekindling an old friendship was the way to go. Or maybe they didn’t intend to end the friendship; who knows.
I’m not interested and didn’t bother responding. Sorry- don’t end the friendship and expect me to be there when you want. I don’t miss the friendship and I thought that it ended at the right time.
How about you: when friendships fade and the person lives nearby, do you welcome the former friend reaching out?
It sounds to me like you're at the point before everybody you know who is going to have kids, has had kids.
Once you reach that point, you'll see the definition of 'fading away'.
Right now, I don't have any animosity with anybody in life (that I can think of).
I'd be glad to hang out with them, though it might be awkward in a few situations...
Like all of us, I’ve had a few friendships fade away, and the fading was clearly intended by the former friend. There was no falling out and the friend didn’t move; it was just clear that the friendship quietly ended. No discussion and no hard feelings; it happens.
Twice recently, the former friend has reached out (by email) to get together. We’re all straight middle-aged guys and perhaps they were short of friends and figured that maybe rekindling an old friendship was the way to go. Or maybe they didn’t intend to end the friendship; who knows.
I’m not interested and didn’t bother responding. Sorry- don’t end the friendship and expect me to be there when you want. I don’t miss the friendship and I thought that it ended at the right time.
How about you: when friendships fade and the person lives nearby, do you welcome the former friend reaching out?
My attitude towards people in general is...If I'm the one always reaching out or giving.. then the other party isn't interested in the relationship. I don't even bother with rationalizing why or what their excuses might be. I move on...period. I also do not revisit.
It all depends on the situation for me. If it's something that just simply faded and I don't have hard feelings over it, I would probably welcome it. Recently, someone reached out to me who I really don't care for. I tolerated her because I was friends with her significant other. I was kind and responded to her texts, and said ok when she suggested we go out for lunch or dinner....until it became apparent that she really only was reaching out because she wanted me to buy her junk jewelry that she makes. She waited 2-3 days and then asked me if I was coming to her whatever party where I'd have to sit through some crap and be pressured into buying her junk. I just didn't respond and blocked her number.
Sometimes I miss BFF's from high school, but then I realize that I have changed a whole lot since then, and so, likely, has the BFF. So, if I were to try to rekindle, it likely wouldn't amount to much of a new friendship.
Like all of us, I’ve had a few friendships fade away, and the fading was clearly intended by the former friend. There was no falling out and the friend didn’t move; it was just clear that the friendship quietly ended. No discussion and no hard feelings; it happens.
Twice recently, the former friend has reached out (by email) to get together. We’re all straight middle-aged guys and perhaps they were short of friends and figured that maybe rekindling an old friendship was the way to go. Or maybe they didn’t intend to end the friendship; who knows.
I’m not interested and didn’t bother responding. Sorry- don’t end the friendship and expect me to be there when you want. I don’t miss the friendship and I thought that it ended at the right time.
How about you: when friendships fade and the person lives nearby, do you welcome the former friend reaching out?
I give it a chance but sometimes going in different paths makes it too difficult
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