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A friend of mine recently moved and within a few days of putting all her things into the new house pounded on the doors of the five closest homes nearby and introduced herself.
Is this expected now days and if not why? Maybe she should have waited until she saw them outside.
The neighborhood I grew up in we were all friendly with each other. Everybody knew everybody else. That's a great thing to have IMO.
Then after I graduated, got a job, and later bought a house I figured I'd have a similar relationship with my neighbors. Boy was I ever wrong. Most of them weren't rude but they certainly didn't want to make small talk or even talk to us at all really. I think if I was ever robbed they'd just act like they never saw anything so they wouldn't have to be involved.
Flash forward to today. My wife and I went out to our house we're having built and the neighbors on both sides came out to say hi because they figured we were going to be their new neighbors. Do you know how great that is??? It was a flipping breath of fresh air.
Good greif. Why is it that some people have to be so stand-offish and be sooo reluctant to meet your neighbors? Just knock on a door. Shake hands. Say hi for god's sake. It's no big deal.
And no it's not expected today. It's the way it was in the old days. But at some point people started getting up tight and fearful of strangers....or something. People wouldn't be strangers if you knew them.
The neighborhood I grew up in we were all friendly with each other. Everybody knew everybody else. That's a great thing to have IMO.
Then after I graduated, got a job, and later bought a house I figured I'd have a similar relationship with my neighbors. Boy was I ever wrong. Most of them weren't rude but they certainly didn't want to make small talk or even talk to us at all really. I think if I was ever robbed they'd just act like they never saw anything so they wouldn't have to be involved.
Flash forward to today. My wife and I went out to our house we're having built and the neighbors on both sides came out to say hi because they figured we were going to be their new neighbors. Do you know how great that is??? It was a flipping breath of fresh air.
Good greif. Why is it that some people have to be so stand-offish and be sooo reluctant to meet your neighbors? Just knock on a door. Shake hands. Say hi for god's sake. It's no big deal.
And no it's not expected today. It's the way it was in the old days. But at some point people started getting up tight and fearful of strangers....or something. People wouldn't be strangers if you knew them.
It's part of the social retardation epidemic sweeping the nation. I blame television.
It's part of the social retardation epidemic sweeping the nation. I blame television.
You know, I grew up in a country where meddling in your neighbor's life and gossiping about it was the norm. While I don't necessarily approve of the isolation here, I don't miss the previous version, either.
And no it's not expected today. It's the way it was in the old days. But at some point people started getting up tight and fearful of strangers....or something. People wouldn't be strangers if you knew them.
It's called "the experience of living in urban centers". Those of us who have lived in them know that the ol' "howdy neighbor" routine doesn't fly there. It's a whole different world of expectations, fears and guarded reactions.
To think that one method of social interaction covers all bases is folly.
It's called "the experience of living in urban centers". Those of us who have lived in them know that the ol' "howdy neighbor" routine doesn't fly there. It's a whole different world of expectations, fears and guarded reactions.
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Only because you make it that way by your own actions and your own fear. We live in some of the most urban areas in the USA and have great experiences with our neighbors.
The problem lies with you, not with the 'urban environment'.
The same was true when we lived in central London.
I will be so happy if my neighbors introduce themselves to me , they seem so kind and friendly . I think that we can help each other in our life . in the meantime I prefer to put limits for our relationships to respect our privacy . I don't want my privacy disturbed . I do like to introduce myself to them but I am too shy to do it. you don't deserve your life if you live with yourself
you don't deserve your life if you live with yourself
I hope this is a mistake caused by the language barrier, monaliza! You DESERVE to have a good life whether you share it with anybody or not. Don't they show L'Oreal commercials in Egypt, for cryin' out loud?!
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