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Ok, so not to be mean to the OP here but this is lame! I'm sorry but this just sounds like such a young, overdramatic situation that I'm not sure that any adult advice would help. But...since I've already wasted time reading through all the post, I will say this, you will one day look back on this situation of yours and laugh! I mean it! Reason being is how petty and childish it is, no offense.
If you can't handle facebook, I would suggest not using facebook.
Ok, I know some of you think I take Facebook a bit too seriously since my last post complaining about my ex-boyfriend not adding me as a friend, but something "interesting" happened today that I wanted to share with you all.
I was on Facebook a little while ago and I noticed that my female cousin and a male friend of mine had recently become Facebook friends. They met a couple of months ago when my friend invited me to a party at his home, and I brought a few guests with me including this cousin. During the party, he did not associate with her aside from when I initially introduced them and even then, all he said was hello. I have been friends with this guy for like five years, and all my cousin knows is that he is a friend of mine and we've never dated, but we do hang out together alone and he sometimes leave flirty comments on my Facebook page, compliments my photos, etc.
Anyways, I don't know for sure, but I suspect my cousin sent him the friend request and not the other way around (I am getting verification on this as I type this). My guy friend is single, but my cousin has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend requested me as a friend a couple days ago and I accepted because they live together so I know she'd be aware of it, he comes to every family event so we've met several times (he even came with us to the party at my guy friend's house), and he is friends with her other female relatives on Facebook so I figured she wouldn't care if he added me as a friend too. However, I never would've taken it upon myself to send him a friend request because he's HER boyfriend and I don't need to have him on my friends list considering that I have no association with him aside from her. I also have never added any of her male friends to my Facebook.
I feel like if she wanted to add my guy friend to her Facebook page, she should have asked me first. She was not invited to his party- I WAS. They don't even know each other. I have my entire Facebook friends list hidden and she didn't know my guy friend's last name, so the ONLY way she was even able to add him as a friend was by seeing comments that he left for ME on MY page, and then she took it upon herself to add him. In the past, she has gone behind my back and communicated with a male friend of mine online who she knew I had a romantic interest in, so I feel like she intentionally did this behind my back as well. She likes attention and has lots of photos of herself dressed provocatively on her page. My guy friend has TONS of female associates, so it's not a matter of me simply not wanting him to have other female friends. My point is that he is not actually friends with my cousin, and I feel like she just wanted to add him to her friends list without any regard to how I would feel about it, and I am going to ask him to DELETE HER.
If it was the other way around and he sent her the friend request, I won't ask him to delete her and I won't be upset with her because he initiated the whole thing. However because I know them both quite well, I highly doubt this was the case.
Ok, I know some of you think I take Facebook a bit too seriously since my last post complaining about my ex-boyfriend not adding me as a friend, but something "interesting" happened today that I wanted to share with you all.
I was on Facebook a little while ago and I noticed that my female cousin and a male friend of mine had recently become Facebook friends. They met a couple of months ago when my friend invited me to a party at his home, and I brought a few guests with me including this cousin. During the party, he did not associate with her aside from when I initially introduced them and even then, all he said was hello. I have been friends with this guy for like five years, and all my cousin knows is that he is a friend of mine and we've never dated, but we do hang out together alone and he sometimes leave flirty comments on my Facebook page, compliments my photos, etc.
Anyways, I don't know for sure, but I suspect my cousin sent him the friend request and not the other way around (I am getting verification on this as I type this). My guy friend is single, but my cousin has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend requested me as a friend a couple days ago and I accepted because they live together so I know she'd be aware of it, he comes to every family event so we've met several times (he even came with us to the party at my guy friend's house), and he is friends with her other female relatives on Facebook so I figured she wouldn't care if he added me as a friend too. However, I never would've taken it upon myself to send him a friend request because he's HER boyfriend and I don't need to have him on my friends list considering that I have no association with him aside from her. I also have never added any of her male friends to my Facebook.
I feel like if she wanted to add my guy friend to her Facebook page, she should have asked me first. She was not invited to his party- I WAS. They don't even know each other. I have my entire Facebook friends list hidden and she didn't know my guy friend's last name, so the ONLY way she was even able to add him as a friend was by seeing comments that he left for ME on MY page, and then she took it upon herself to add him. In the past, she has gone behind my back and communicated with a male friend of mine online who she knew I had a romantic interest in, so I feel like she intentionally did this behind my back as well. She likes attention and has lots of photos of herself dressed provocatively on her page. My guy friend has TONS of female associates, so it's not a matter of me simply not wanting him to have other female friends. My point is that he is not actually friends with my cousin, and I feel like she just wanted to add him to her friends list without any regard to how I would feel about it, and I am going to ask him to DELETE HER.
If it was the other way around and he sent her the friend request, I won't ask him to delete her and I won't be upset with her because he initiated the whole thing. However because I know them both quite well, I highly doubt this was the case.
Am I being unreasonable?
Ok, I read this story. For your own peace of mind, delete your facebook account
Unreasonable would be asking for a fur coat made out of porcupine quills. This goes beyond that, bordering on the ridiculously unreasonable.
I think there are more important things to worry about here than who the latest "unfriend" friend is.. Grow up a little and get over it.
Facebook Drama Queen: (n) 1. When someone you don't even know unfriends you from Facebook and you fly off the handle. Social paranoia kicks in and you turn into a full fledged Facebook Drama Queen. You contact all your mutual FB friends to get them to unfriend your nonfriend and reel over it for weeks. 2. Anyone that spends more than 10 minutes a day on Facebook.
It's time to delete that facebook account and find out what it's like to live again in the real world.
It sounds like you and your cousin need to do a better job of communicating. You're making an awful lot of assumptions. How do you know that they didn't talk more at the party? How do you know that they didn't run into each other after the party and realized they had something in common (in a platonic sort of way)? You don't know these things because you don't communicate. That's a two way street.
Maybe you should call and talk with your cousin (rationally) about this. And probably change your privacy settings if it bothers you this much.
But just out of curiosity....does this guy friend have a lot of females on his profile and do you get this bent out of shape when they get added to his list?
I was with her all night, so I know they didn't talk. I brought along several guests and the only person he talked to was me because he doesn't know them. They don't live in the same town, so they wouldn't run into each other anywhere. She and I hang out with completely different kinds of people, so my friends have always been separate from hers. I have not brought this issue up with her yet because I'd rather discuss it with him first. I think he'd be more likely to see my point.
And yes, my friend has many other female friends on his profile, and I don't care at all. In fact, most of the people on his friends list are female.
OP, you're obviously not listening to anyone else's opinion and thinking this out rationally and maturely so why did you bother asking the question in the first place?
Hard for me to comprehend why so many people place such importance on Facebook and get their knickers in such a twist about such banality.
Ok, I know some of you think I take Facebook a bit too seriously since my last post complaining about my ex-boyfriend not adding me as a friend, but something "interesting" happened today that I wanted to share with you all.
I was on Facebook a little while ago and I noticed that my female cousin and a male friend of mine had recently become Facebook friends. They met a couple of months ago when my friend invited me to a party at his home, and I brought a few guests with me including this cousin. During the party, he did not associate with her aside from when I initially introduced them and even then, all he said was hello. I have been friends with this guy for like five years, and all my cousin knows is that he is a friend of mine and we've never dated, but we do hang out together alone and he sometimes leave flirty comments on my Facebook page, compliments my photos, etc.
Anyways, I don't know for sure, but I suspect my cousin sent him the friend request and not the other way around (I am getting verification on this as I type this). My guy friend is single, but my cousin has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend requested me as a friend a couple days ago and I accepted because they live together so I know she'd be aware of it, he comes to every family event so we've met several times (he even came with us to the party at my guy friend's house), and he is friends with her other female relatives on Facebook so I figured she wouldn't care if he added me as a friend too. However, I never would've taken it upon myself to send him a friend request because he's HER boyfriend and I don't need to have him on my friends list considering that I have no association with him aside from her. I also have never added any of her male friends to my Facebook.
I feel like if she wanted to add my guy friend to her Facebook page, she should have asked me first. She was not invited to his party- I WAS. They don't even know each other. I have my entire Facebook friends list hidden and she didn't know my guy friend's last name, so the ONLY way she was even able to add him as a friend was by seeing comments that he left for ME on MY page, and then she took it upon herself to add him. In the past, she has gone behind my back and communicated with a male friend of mine online who she knew I had a romantic interest in, so I feel like she intentionally did this behind my back as well. She likes attention and has lots of photos of herself dressed provocatively on her page. My guy friend has TONS of female associates, so it's not a matter of me simply not wanting him to have other female friends. My point is that he is not actually friends with my cousin, and I feel like she just wanted to add him to her friends list without any regard to how I would feel about it, and I am going to ask him to DELETE HER.
If it was the other way around and he sent her the friend request, I won't ask him to delete her and I won't be upset with her because he initiated the whole thing. However because I know them both quite well, I highly doubt this was the case.
Yes, that's fine and I have people on my friends list that I don't speak to also, but the point is that I DO know them from someplace and I didn't just STEAL them off somebody else's list. There's a difference, people! LOL This guy is MY friend, not hers and she knows this!
Yes, that's fine and I have people on my friends list that I don't speak to also, but the point is that I DO know them from someplace and I didn't just STEAL them off somebody else's list. There's a difference, people! LOL This guy is MY friend, not hers and she knows this!
Facebook is more full of casual friends and mere acquaintances than real friend or best friends. I think that Facebook suggested to your cousin that she friend your male buddy. I highly doubt that she went down your entire friend list and made friend requests to everyone one it.
Most people are not best friends with everyone on their friend lists. And many people do make a game out of how large a friend network they can build on Facebook.
I am also curious as to how old you and your cousin are.
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