You might consider Sanford itself
Since your husband's uncle lives here, come down for a visit and check the place out!
A lot of military families based at Ft. Bragg actually live in Sanford, as it offers a respite from being right near or on base, and Sanford is a good size that presents a small town feel with big town services.
Sanford is a good mid-sized city, that is literally almost centered in the state. It is about 30-60 minutes from Greensboro, Raleigh/Durham, and Fayetteville.
Here is a great map illustrating Sanford's regional location relative to the rest of the state:
http://www.secondcentury.org/pdfs/SC...r-HR-email.pdf
Here are some Sanford links:
City of Sanford, North Carolina - The Official Government Website
Downtown Sanford, INC. | Sanford, North Carolina
Welcome to the Lee County 2nd Century Project (Just announced, and website under development)
There is a lot of investment going on in Sanford capitalizing on its unique location and other advantages. So there is a lot of opportunity, and I think Sanford is only going to keep getting better as we have loads of public and private momentum.
We moved here 3yrs ago from San Jose, CA, by way of a 1yr lease in Cary, and love it.
Sanford isn't perfect of course, but there has been a steady pace of sensitive improvement and investment here that is really making a huge difference, and the ability for the average citizen to get involved and make a difference is something we really appreciate. How often does the mayor or city councilman know your name and wave, or respond to your personal email or phone call? That's something you can't get in a big city.
Check out Downtown Sanford Inc's calendar of events, and come down one day when we've got a free concert or other event at Depot Park downtown. The free concert series has wound up for this season(every Thursday night all Summer), but we'll have other community events around the holidays, and plan to start free movie showings in the park as well in the near future.
And housing is VERY affordable, providing choices from gated golf communities, historic residential districts, to rural acreage... all within a few minutes of each other since the city really isn't that physically large.
And if you like historic homes, we have three National Register residential districts, all eligible for State Historic Tax Credits(Federal as well if income producing). The state credit is 30% of any approved expenditures over $25k. What other program has the state subsidize 30% of your home remodel/renovation? That's quite a deal, but to be fair of course isn't unique to Sanford
Tax credit info:
http://www.hpo.dcr.state.nc.us/tchome.htm
More info on Sanford's historic districts:
http://www.sanfordnc.net/Planning/historic_preservation.htm (broken link)
Good luck with your search!
Al