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Old 07-30-2010, 03:13 PM
 
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My D will be 18 in a month and has been asked to go to beach with a group- Boyfriend is going but I just called the mom that I thought was going-she won't be there- but 26 year old oldest son will be and the husband is going on Tuesday- when did you let yours go without adults on a weekend trip?
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:15 PM
 
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Whew, I thought you had 18 kids and expecting.

I think he will be fine, he's almost 18.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:21 PM
 
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That's what I thought too (the Duggars). How far away and do you know the kids who will be going w/ your D? At 18, she'll prob. be fine, she has a cell phone if she needs to call (prob.), in the fall she'll prob. be going away to college...
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:24 PM
 
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When I was 18 my mom let me and my friends drive to Toronto together. That was the summer after my senior year.

Then I went on spring break and various other trips alone in college.

And ps I thought you meant 18+ children as in having 18 kids and having more. eeks!
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:24 PM
 
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That's what I thought too (the Duggars). How far away and do you know the kids who will be going w/ your D? At 18, she'll prob. be fine, she has a cell phone if she needs to call (prob.), in the fall she'll prob. be going away to college...
this is what I was thinking.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:26 PM
 
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OOPS - didn't think about how i worded that-who in the heck has over 18 kids EXCEPT the Duggar's -she actually will be a senior in HS but she is friends with alot of kids who are going to college- It's 4 hours away and I know some of the people....
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:46 PM
 
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Since the father of the boyfriend will be going, I'd feel comfortable as long as I knew he wasn't known for providing alcohol to minors. If it was just the 26 year old, I wouldn't be as comfortable.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:49 PM
 
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Do you trust her? When I was 18 I was backpacking across Europe with my friends. I know my parents were worried, but they knew they'd raised a responsible person so they let me "fly". I always appreciated that and worked hard to let them know their trust wasn't misplaced.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:56 PM
 
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Yes I do trust her and she knows if anything happens it will not be allowed for a long time-I just seem to live in a sheltered community where most parents don't allow their kids to do anything without supervision-I let her drive thru Atlanta this summer -she did fine- I am one to let things happen sooner than later -I guess they'll be fine
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Old 07-30-2010, 04:20 PM
 
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My D will be 18 in a month and has been asked to go to beach with a group- Boyfriend is going but I just called the mom that I thought was going-she won't be there- but 26 year old oldest son will be and the husband is going on Tuesday- when did you let yours go without adults on a weekend trip?
Yikes, this is a tougher question when it comes to girls.

With my son I let him go to the beach with all his buds and no parental units the day after his high school graduation. But keep in mind, I know my kid very well and he's not the "party hardy" type. In addition, he was going to be leaving for college in NYC in just two months after graduation, so I felt sure he could handle a trip to the beach without supervision.

Your situation is a bit stickier because your daughter wants to go with her boyfriend. I don't care how trustworthy she might be, that may be putting her in too risky of a situation. While it's great the 26 year old is going to be there I highly doubt that he would "supervise" the way a mom or dad would. Since your daughter is yet to turn 18 she's likely still in high school, right? I'd wait a year to let her make this kind of trip.

So here's my suggestion...have your daughter wait to ride down to the beach with her boyfriends Dad on Tuesday. If you aren't willing to do that, be sure to send along a pack of condoms
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