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Do you believe that adoptive parents can love the children they adopt as their own??
Before you get all snarked-out, chill. My husband is one of our children's step-parent (because PA's adoption process and laws suck). I took the question from another thread/poster.
I think it depends on the relationship the child and step-parent have. Also, a lot depends on the living situation also. I think it is easier to have that parent/child relationship if the child is in the house with the step parent full time.
I know that in my situation, my husband was the non-custodial parent and we didn't see a lot of his daughters, long story, I do not "love" them as I love my daughter. I really never got to know them, so it is hard to love someone you don't really know.
Also, IMO, adoping "your" child is different than being a step-parent to someone elses child.
I not only grew to love my stepson, but also adopted him. Yes, you can love your stepchildren and they are just like your own - they can (and probably will) do some very stupid (in your eyes) things. But, you have to roll with the flow. One of my preccious grandchildren is adopted and I love her just as much as the "real" one. Neither of them are from my blood but I cannot imagine not having them in my life. And, yes they, along with their parent's will all be equals in our wills. In my family there were/are several "steps" and all are loved.
Yes, I think they can, but it doesn't always happen. My dad was every bit of a loving dad to my older half sisters. I think it helped that their bio dad was out of the picture, so he was able to step into the dad role completely.
Yes, I think they can, but it doesn't always happen. My dad was every bit of a loving dad to my older half sisters. I think it helped that their bio dad was out of the picture, so he was able to step into the dad role completely.
I agree with this. It certainly takes a huge issue away.
It all depends on the person - if they are mature and capable of loving or not - and then it depends on the kid and the chemistry with the step-parent - if there is a bond. It's highly unique - the best predictor I would think would be the mental health and maturity of the step parent - if they are a decent person or not.
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