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Thts what im saying idk whats with american people thinkin that i must have kids most people who are already parents pretty much tell me this along with my mom and dad
Kids are a lot of work people make it seem like its all full of joys and wonders
Trust me, no one wants you to breed if you really don't want to.
Tell your mom and dad that you won't be the one providing grandchildren, and if they choose to see that as selfish, that is their choice.
I am not aware of society saying you need to have kids, I believe that is something you have internalized, probably based on you family members saying it.
Now, your Mom and Dad may want little people running around, as some people have created this ideal. They may have made a retirement vision in their mind of occasionally watching little grandchildren and that providing happiness as they get older....expanding families that they are a part of but not directly responsible day to day. I am not saying that is right, because it is not, but some people create that vision and then are disappointed if it doesn't happen. They may call you selfish due to disappointment in their vision not coming to reality.
Actually, most people who post here are happy being parents but would prefer that only those who actually want children have them. Because we actually like children enough to care about their well being.
And because we now know how much work it REALLY is!
I don't want kids either, and I resent it when people tell me I'm selfish because of this. To all of those people who have said that to me, $*#@ you!
I think it's more selfish to have kids & not be able to afford them, like many people do in the U.S. and the world. In fact, I know some people in their 30's who can't afford all of their kids - and their family is giving them financial assistance because they don't have enough $ due to all of these kids.
This country is turning into a welfare state because of things like this...
I don't want kids either, and I resent it when people tell me I'm selfish because of this. To all of those people who have said that to me, $*#@ you!
I think it's more selfish to have kids & not be able to afford them, like many people do in the U.S. and the world. In fact, I know some people in their 30's who can't afford all of their kids - and their family is giving them financial assistance because they don't have enough $ due to all of these kids.
This country is turning into a welfare state because of things like this...
I'm not against you but you might spend a little time in a rest home getting to know some of the folks there.
Some folk that have kids never see them except when they want money
Some people were put there by their kids and forgotten,
some had no kids to come visit them at all.
there are only their rare few that you will not find in the rest homes ,
that actually had kids that took them into their own home, and dealt with their declining years ,or ,like me
Kids that spent the few years left caring for mom and dad in their own home till they passed.
I would bet that as selfish as society is the numbers of those with kids are seeing less and less of them both due to the economy and priorities established greater then family values.
Many are raised with no family values what so ever having been raised by their mother and that reluctantly. So many raised b divorced parents there are no family values .
As it is the chances for divorce are so high among young people , women are calculating divorce before they are even married, sadly ,practically it's become culture.
People make vows they have no intention of keeping ,for that matter remembering.
And a vow is a more sacred promise than saying, "I promise to pick you up after school."
Statistically ,having children and not actually being devoted to them being a parent, and leaving the raising to the crooked public like most of the country ,the chances of them being there for you in the end, are pretty thin.
If there is a divorce involved, it is likely you will never see your kids again. or you become a sugar daddy or the bum being hated.
So if you haven't family values, and don't want kids ,
here is one person that understands you perfectly.
My parents loved and cared for me immensely, and gave me what they were capable of, including a good Christian home I cherish forever.
And it was with great pleasure to care for my parents in their lives ,through out my life, and as the slipped into eternity.
Dad almost made 90.
Mom made 85 , the most fantastic people you could ever know.
But these are not representative of the world today, these were extraordinary.
Sadly my wife did not share the same relationship with her parents, and our children are a result of that conflicted up bringing .
My son and daughter are to far away and only keep touch if the need something ,that's what I've been reduced to.
My MIL treated me like crap when I told her that she wouldn't have any future play things by us. The disrespect was ridiculous. It wasn't like she didn't have other play things. My mother on the other hand had only one that she wasn't involved with. She wouldn't have been involved with my kids either if I had any. I never had that biological urge to reproduce and John never wanted kids either. We're perfect for each other. That should have been enough for my MIL.
It's amazing the number of childless people who don't want kids but hang out on the Parenting Board.
Really guys no one outside your family cares if you have kids or not. If your family is giving you a hard time about it tell them the discussion is over and refuse to discuss it further.
It's amazing the number of childless people who don't want kids but hang out on the Parenting Board.
Really guys no one outside your family cares if you have kids or not. If your family is giving you a hard time about it tell them the discussion is over and refuse to discuss it further.
That is a ridiculous argument. Does my living in Texas mean I can't read the Kentucky forum? I don't have kids but I read the Parenting forum and other forums that don't directly apply to me (such as the Retirement forum) beacuse I learn a lot from them.
Thts what im saying idk whats with american people thinkin that i must have kids most people who are already parents pretty much tell me this along with my mom and dad
Kids are a lot of work people make it seem like its all full of joys and wonders
You really think the entirety of the "American people" give a rats behind whether or not you have kids? Your Mom and Dad, I can see the issue. But the "American people"? That is just wacky.
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I don't have kids but I read the Parenting forum and other forums that don't directly apply to me (such as the Retirement forum) beacuse I learn a lot from them.
