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Old 11-09-2019, 03:05 PM
 
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My daughter just wrecked fiancé’s brand new truck. He literally just got it in September. She is hysterical and he is angry.

I have attempted to explain that all that matters is we are ok. The truck can be fixed.

Any tips on navigating this until the tempers and feelings mellow out?

I have already submitted the claim to the insurance company. But he is ready to just trade the truck in and get another one. Obviously that would be ridiculous.
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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My daughter just wrecked fiancé’s brand new truck. He literally just got it in September. She is hysterical and he is angry.

I have attempted to explain that all that matters is we are ok. The truck can be fixed.

Any tips on navigating this until the tempers and feelings mellow out?

I have already submitted the claim to the insurance company. But he is ready to just trade the truck in and get another one. Obviously that would be ridiculous.
Oh, so you're still involved with him?

Trading it in wouldn't be the worst financial decision he's made, right?

How did she wreck it? Because the fact that she's ok is good, but it isn't ALL that matters.
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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As long as they are both adults, you need to let them sort it out themselves,
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:22 PM
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Is this your fiance, or her fiance?
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:25 PM
 
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Oh, so you're still involved with him?

Trading it in wouldn't be the worst financial decision he's made, right?

How did she wreck it? Because the fact that she's ok is good, but it isn't ALL that matters.
She is learning how to drive. We were passing a friends farm and she was looking towards and honking at the friend, causing her to veer off and hit a sign.

I probably shouldn’t have let her drive but she needs the practice.

I lent my car to a friend, so I have been driving his truck this weekend while he was at work. I am farm sitting this week and daughter was helping me feed animals.
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:40 PM
 
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Ummm... this truck? Oops.

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Most single moms aren’t living in 5 bedroom houses in expensive areas... she has been to Mexico, Cuba and Italy in the last 6 months. Most single moms are struggling or living with their parents in our area. She is learning to drive in a two month old $59k truck...

I would say I am an amazing person to learn how to prosper as a single mom.
I agree with the posters who say your DS and the guy should sort it out. She needs to learn how to clean up her own messes.
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:44 PM
 
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still not absolutely clear on WHOSE fiance it is.
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Old 11-09-2019, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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still not absolutely clear on WHOSE fiance it is.
The OP's "fiance."

Her daughter is 16.

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She is learning how to drive. We were passing a friends farm and she was looking towards and honking at the friend, causing her to veer off and hit a sign.

I probably shouldn’t have let her drive but she needs the practice.

I lent my car to a friend, so I have been driving his truck this weekend while he was at work. I am farm sitting this week and daughter was helping me feed animals.
Yeah, she obviously needs the practice. But you shouldn't have let her drive his vehicle.
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Old 11-09-2019, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My daughter just wrecked fiancé’s brand new truck. He literally just got it in September. She is hysterical and he is angry.
Why is she "hysterical"? Is she shook up because of the accident or were the police involved and it will effect her driving record or is she afraid of your fiancée or what?

Is he "angry" because of the accident & damage to his truck or because he did not give permission for a 16 year to drive his truck or what?

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I have attempted to explain that all that matters is we are ok. The truck can be fixed.

Any tips on navigating this until the tempers and feelings mellow out?

I have already submitted the claim to the insurance company. But he is ready to just trade the truck in and get another one. Obviously that would be ridiculous.
If the truck only has minor damage I can see why it would seem silly to replace it, but if he can afford a new truck what does it matter to you how he spends his money?
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Old 11-09-2019, 10:00 PM
 
Location: Raleigh
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Don’t complicate things. And don’t let him vent his spleen to her. He needs to remember, that he effed up. He trusted you!

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