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I like the fact that our area is included in these articles--unlike some people, I'd like to see A LOT more growth. I guess everyone has their reasons, but I could care less if someone moves here without a job. Btw, I don't know anyone that is currently unemployed in this area, so I don't find it far-fetched to believe the statistics (I obviously don't know that many people ).
From an outsider's point of view... and a potential "transplant"... I think the vibe I have gotten from many natives, is that they are worried about, (because they have had experience with it), is people coming from out of town, not because they want to join the area, and the culture that the natives love... but for other reasons. Then they come to the area, and want to CHANGE the culture and area... and I don't know many people who like that.
Kind of a.. don't come here trying to change everything we know and love... either become a part of it or tolerate it... or go somewhere that fits more along the lines of what you want.
Correct me if I am wrong... but I've gotten that vibe from many I think.
From an outsider's point of view... and a potential "transplant"... I think the vibe I have gotten from many natives, is that they are worried about, (because they have had experience with it), is people coming from out of town, not because they want to join the area, and the culture that the natives love... but for other reasons. Then they come to the area, and want to CHANGE the culture and area... and I don't know many people who like that.
Kind of a.. don't come here trying to change everything we know and love... either become a part of it or tolerate it... or go somewhere that fits more along the lines of what you want.
Correct me if I am wrong... but I've gotten that vibe from many I think.
Actually, while change is difficult for some folks, many cope with it well.
However, it is astonishing sometimes to witness the clash in cultures, and how brash, crude and rude some northern folks seem when they talk endlessly about where they are from as if a local has never heard of LI or NYC.
The old sales saying, "You have two ears and one mouth and should use them in that proportion," would be good advice for anyone locating from anywhere to anywhere.
"When in Rome, do as the Romans do," also comes to mind from time to time.
From an outsider's point of view... and a potential "transplant"... I think the vibe I have gotten from many natives, is that they are worried about, (because they have had experience with it), is people coming from out of town, not because they want to join the area, and the culture that the natives love... but for other reasons. Then they come to the area, and want to CHANGE the culture and area... and I don't know many people who like that.
Kind of a.. don't come here trying to change everything we know and love... either become a part of it or tolerate it... or go somewhere that fits more along the lines of what you want.
Correct me if I am wrong... but I've gotten that vibe from many I think.
...except that, for all intents and purposes, Raleigh has been in a constant state of change for decades now.
While there will always be some that don't want people to move to the area for "whatever" reason, I think that any heightened concerns today would be more associated with jobs. Even then, the reality is that the Triangle's unemployment rate remains significantly lower than the state average despite keeping up the fastest growth rate. When and if the unemployment rate "normalizes" to more typical levels for the Triangle, I think that a lot of the anxiety from many will melt away.
The reality is that the Triangle has built itself on retaining NC's best and brightest while welcoming many of the best and brightest from elsewhere. To be successful into the future, it needs to stay that course.
The rudeness manifests itself when posters are braced about their means when they have not raised the question, when it is tangential to the original post, and when it is done without offering any information that relates to their query.
Mike,
I personally tend to inquire when people's questions about relocating seem rather random.
Ex. We are thinking about relocating to Cary. We want good schools. Where are these?
If this person said:
Hi! My husband has been offered the opportunity to relocate to RTP for work. We've heard Cary is a great place to raise a family. We'd like a house in a family neighborhood. Our budget is 400-500k.
I sure as heck would not be rude enough to ask if they think the new income can buy them a home in that price range. Nor how they plan to support themselves.
The most frightening posters have a horrific grasp of Internet communication skils, extremely poor grammar, and throw out a handful of places where they heard there were jobs, minus any mention of securing one first.
This is the Internet. While these boards are designed to help folks, it's unfair to coddle people who need help.
Telling them it'll be tough to move here without a job or a very large amount of cash is a kindness, not an evil.
Actually, while change is difficult for some folks, many cope with it well.
However, it is astonishing sometimes to witness the clash in cultures, and how brash, crude and rude some northern folks seem when they talk endlessly about where they are from as if a local has never heard of LI or NYC.
The old sales saying, "You have two ears and one mouth and should use them in that proportion," would be good advice for anyone locating from anywhere to anywhere.
"When in Rome, do as the Romans do," also comes to mind from time to time.
Couldn't rep it, but I agree completely. Hey! Many of us have even ridden on big planes to visit large cities.
Hi! My husband has been offered the opportunity to relocate to RTP for work. We've heard Cary is a great place to raise a family. We'd like a house in a family neighborhood. Our budget is 400-500k.
I sure as heck would not be rude enough to ask if they think the new income can buy them a home in that price range. Nor how they plan to support themselves.
Unfortunately, some people ARE rude enough to ask the question, even when the OP specifically stated a job was in hand -- it's happened before (and will likely happen again).
In the past, I've asked people to NOT focus on the jobs question unless it's specifically asked, and I still think that's the best policy.
...except that, for all intents and purposes, Raleigh has been in a constant state of change for decades now.
While there will always be some that don't want people to move to the area for "whatever" reason, I think that any heightened concerns today would be more associated with jobs. Even then, the reality is that the Triangle's unemployment rate remains significantly lower than the state average despite keeping up the fastest growth rate. When and if the unemployment rate "normalizes" to more typical levels for the Triangle, I think that a lot of the anxiety from many will melt away.
The reality is that the Triangle has built itself on retaining NC's best and brightest while welcoming many of the best and brightest from elsewhere. To be successful into the future, it needs to stay that course.
And this.
Raleigh has been constantly evolving ever since my earliest memories.
I can even recall when most of what is now Cary was incredibly rural.
My 22yo son remembers when Morrisville was a hole in the road. He attended Sterling Montessori before they even finished construction on the middle school building.
Unfortunately, some people ARE rude enough to ask the question, even when the OP specifically stated a job was in hand -- it's happened before (and will likely happen again).
In the past, I've asked people to NOT focus on the jobs question unless it's specifically asked, and I still think that's the best policy.
Well, that's kinda stupid of them. Why ask people if they have a job when they just said so? Odd.
I guess there's more than one way to skin a cat. No harm in discussing the jobless rate here. It's a "feature" of the region, after all.
Er. Not to people who have jobs. To the ones who don't mention it and sound like they're fleeing from some depressed state with high unemployment.
If someone says, "Tell me about RDU (sic) and where I should live and where my kids should go to school and anything else you can tell me that I need to know!"
Then an appropriate question would be ...
"Where is your job located? That will help us give you the information you need."
The person will either say, "I'll be working in [insert area here]." or will say "Uhhhhh -- working?", and that will give you a pretty good idea of the direction the conversation should take .....
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