If you were to get a divorce, would you ask for the wedding ring back (woman, love)
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There is no way a judge would let him have the rings back. An engagement ring is given in contemplation of marriage and in some circumstances in some states it's a returnable item if the marriage doesn't take place but in all my long years I've never heard of anyone getting the wedding band returned. It's not relevant but what an incredibly tacky cheapskate your ex is and how very fortunate for you that you're not with him any more!
STT I already gave them back, in exchange for the non-contact order to be incorporated into the divorce decree.
I have not seen him in 2 years, he called me back in August to threaten my life and job so I got a lawyer and set aside the divorce for him to get the rings back.
I wouldn't ask for it back, because it would not be worth very much. It is funny how the corporations have brainwashed Americans into spending a huge amount of money on a ring.
Where I am from, there are no "rocks". Only a simple gold band. It really should not matter if you truly love each other.
I can already see the women in this thread foaming at the mouth when talking about taking away their precious stones.
I agree for the most part that it's tacky but one exception would be if the wedding ring was a family heirloom passed down from a relative. In that case it's not just about money but about sentimentality and heritage. I could understand someone fighting tooth and nail to have it returned.
However, this doesn't seem to be applicable to the OP (since the ex brought it up 2 years later instead of immediately).
I wouldn't give the rings back. I'd tell my attorney to tell his attorney that you sold the rings. I've never heard of re-opening a case for something like this, how childish...
OP, I know you have already given the rings back but this was a total douchebag move on your ex's part. Some will say the engagement ring is legally/technically not yours...blah..blah..blah but you fulfilled a promise to marry him so as far as I'm concerned you earned them....yours to keep. Clearly, he is just grasping at anything to hurt you. Consider it a small price to pay to rid yourself of him and you are better off for not having him in your life anymore.
You gave him you're rings in exchange for a no-contact order in the divorce decree, I'm bewildered?
I'm not a lawyer but how long were the no contact provisions for? After 2 years, I would think the no contact would have expired, its not a life-time guarantee.
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Originally Posted by CarolVa1977
STT I already gave them back, in exchange for the non-contact order to be incorporated into the divorce decree.
I have not seen him in 2 years, he called me back in August to threaten my life and job so I got a lawyer and set aside the divorce for him to get the rings back.
My exhusband set aside the divorce , and in the new settlement asked for the rings back.
I think is very tacky.
Apparently he is getting married again and is going to use the stones and the gold to make a new ring for the new wife
He is a cheap ba$tard. Did he tell his new wife that she is getting a ring that used to belong to his EX-WIFE!!!!!!! If I was the new wife and some guy gave me his ex-wife's refurbished ring I would tell him to shove it up his a$$.
The only time an engagement ring should be given back is when an engagement is broken. The rings are yours to keep. Sell them right away or just tell him you lost them....they fell down the drain
I am so sorry you are going through this. He sounds like a jerk and I'm sure you'll be better off without him.
Edited: I just read that you gave them back....too bad. Could you not have just gotten a restraining order if he threatened to kill you. Al in all he sounds like a real prince.
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Some will say the engagement ring is legally/technically not yours...blah..blah..blah but you fulfilled a promise to marry him so as far as I'm concerned you earned them....yours to keep. Clearly, he is just grasping at anything to hurt you. Consider it a small price to pay to rid yourself of him and you are better off for not having him in your life anymore. 
