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Does he masturbate? If not, maybe ten times a year is simply all the sex he wants/needs/can do. Unfortunate for you, but not much that can be done about it I think.
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Originally Posted by Yzette
And if someone said "not much can be done about it" to a man, there would be a riot on these boards.
I'm not sure I follow. I have no idea if there would be a riot or not, but are you saying something can be done about it? How so, if he is getting all the sex he wants and needs and is physically capable of? I don't think you can force someone to seek help, can you? Or am I missing your point? Why would that statement be more offensive if the genders were reversed?
(Note: I realize this may not apply in this case. If he masturbates daily, I'm seriously doubting sex drive is the issue.)
I cook and clean and do all the shopping, bill paying, appointment setting, etc. The masturbation situation shines new light on the subject. I forgot about that, he masturbates every morning in the shower. We had a few disagreements about this in the past. I said if he held off on the masturbation for a while maybe he would use his desire's with me, but he said he "need's" to do it in the morning. When we met he was 29 and had only one girlfriend in the past, for less than a year. He was very shy and quiet and he built up a self fulfilling habit for many years that he can not break. Thank You "Dr. Ruth" for the insight.
Men, be careful about your "wanking" habits, they might unknowingly destroy other things.
He is passive-aggresives, no meds, no alcohol, low libido for a long time. He had a complete physical with testosterone levels, two months ago. He is 46. I have not gained weight, bath daily, brush teeth regular and even use deoderant. I have become a very high libido person lately, thanks to HRT, and want it every which way, often. I have become interested in viewing internet entertainment, to fill my need. I sit on the couch with my laptop in the evening, while watching tv, I can watch my fun stuff.
OP-I hear you. I have a very high sex level. If I find a peeper I like, I want it all the time. Right now I'm in a drought and I just restocked on my mega battery stockpile from BJ's
I cook and clean everyday, take care of the kids and household pay the bills, do the shopping make all the appointments, basically, I do everything.He works FT and I work pt. He will do just about anything I ask, for the most part. I think it has to do with control, he feels this the one thing he has control over. The one thing he can do to upset me the most, but he better be ready for the outcome, because I'm not waiting forever.
Ok, you do all that and "want it"? Unless you look like you were hit by a Mack truck, and I'm very sure you don't, then he doesn't know what he has.
Don't go down a bad path, what ever you do. Be good to him for the kids and for yourself and look for a way to get help.
Another idea is to give him more control over other things. Lets say .......laundry, bills, dusting, just as a start. make sure he folds the shirts right, too!
I'd say your husband's level is below normal and this may be a big part of the problem. Men's testosterone level is highest around age 40, then gradually declines. So if it's below 300, that's significant.
Rather than a gp, I'd find a specialist for him to see.
You can disregard any other response on this thread that suggests your husband is gay, cheating on you, has emotional problems or anything else. His testosterone level is unbelievably low. Shockingly so. Any physician will immediately put him on Testim, Androgel or testosterone injections. He will notice a difference immediately.
I went from having sex once a month (and pestering him for it), to having it sometimes 4 times a night. It will completely change him.
I wasn't saying he had emotional problems, the OP has in other threads. Seems he is very, very paranoid so I can't see him interested in sex and I can see why he giggles at porn. His low testosterone level is another issue that is why his sex drive is down but also I believe his mental health needs to be checked too.
I wasn't saying he had emotional problems, the OP has in other threads. Seems he is very, very paranoid so I can't see him interested in sex and I can see why he giggles at porn. His low testosterone level is another issue that is why his sex drive is down but also I believe his mental health needs to be checked too.
I had his level checked because I believed there was a problem. The doctor said his levels are in the normal level, I disagreed and said he should be on HRT, the dr. said no.
Does he masterbate ? If he does not, then yes his libido is likely shot.
Do you think he is on the down low ? ( sex with men behind your back )
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And if someone said "not much can be done about it" to a man, there would be a riot on these boards.
. I have become a very high libido person lately, thanks to HRT, and want it every which way, often. I have become interested in viewing internet entertainment, to fill my need. I sit on the couch with my laptop in the evening, while watching tv, I can watch my fun stuff. 
and I just restocked on my mega battery stockpile from BJ's 
