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Respectfully, I knew I did not wanted to have kids by age 6. While my sisters were playing house, I was playing meccanos (like legos). No interest in dolls or babies EVER.
I always knew i did not want to become a mother.
Then I am wrong quite obviously and city_data91 is a normal young man.
On one of my first dates here in San Francisco, the lady asked me if I liked kids and wanted them someday.
I told her I did, indeed, love children, and that I'd basically raised my sister who's 13 years younge, and that yeah... someday, it'd be nice. Not any time soon, but it'd certainly be nice.
She told me that I'd probably "think differently if I was the one to carry and birth the child," which I thought was funny, inasmuch as every child ever born has been to a woman, and the vast many of those women made some decision, in some way or another, to carry and birth that child. Not wanting to start a fight about patriarchy or gender roles, I just sort of let her continue admonishing me for wanting to have a kid when there were so many perfectly good adoptable ones out there.
Never had a second date
That, though, has been another recurring theme... most of the women here I've met who do want a kid want to adopt. Which is fine. I'd prefer to have one of my own.
Respectfully, I knew I did not wanted to have kids by age 6. While my sisters were playing house, I was playing meccanos (like legos). No interest in dolls or babies EVER.
I always knew i did not want to become a mother.
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
I knew pretty young too. Matter of fact when I was a kid I prefered to be around the adults, I didn't like being around kids, even when I was a kid. I remember kids being so damn mean. Just nasty little buggers. LOL
Its weird cause as an adult, I actually don't mind kids at all, assuming they're well mannered and polite.
With all of the kids out there for adoption due to other irresponsible people and considering the risk of your new child having some kind of crippling life condition scares the **** out of me. I don't think I will have children. Maybe I'll adopt. Maybe.
On one of my first dates here in San Francisco, the lady asked me if I liked kids and wanted them someday.
I told her I did, indeed, love children, and that I'd basically raised my sister who's 13 years younge, and that yeah... someday, it'd be nice. Not any time soon, but it'd certainly be nice.
She told me that I'd probably "think differently if I was the one to carry and birth the child," which I thought was funny, inasmuch as every child ever born has been to a woman, and the vast many of those women made some decision, in some way or another, to carry and birth that child. Not wanting to start a fight about patriarchy or gender roles, I just sort of let her continue admonishing me for wanting to have a kid when there were so many perfectly good adoptable ones out there.
Never had a second date
That, though, has been another recurring theme... most of the women here I've met who do want a kid want to adopt. Which is fine. I'd prefer to have one of my own.
I thought you made a post saying you're happy birth control never failed for you
I thought you made a post saying you're happy birth control never failed for you
Yeah, for now.
I would like kids someday. Not now (no steady significant other, small apartment, where I'm at in my career, etc). And I don't have a kid currently, so birth control hasn't failed me. I am happy about this because knowing how my relationships have ended and why, I'm glad I'm not tied to them forever via a kid caught in the middle.
The whole reason it's called birth control is because it gives you a degree of control as to when a birth happens.
It's one of those "someday when things are right" situations. Just because I'm into a woman right now and we're dating and having a good time doesn't mean we would make good parents together.
They are perfectly normal adults who have the experience and self knowledge that having children is not for them.
I have no problem whatsoever with people choosing that option.
You have no experience in life, you have never been in love, never had a committed relationship and never left home.
Sorry kiddo, you have nothing to base any life long decisions on.
So you're saying I don't have the life experience to decide I don't want kids, but you think I should want kids
That logic makes no sense
If I lack the life experience to decide I don't want kids, that also means I don't have the life experience to decide I want kids.
I don't understand why you think it would be perfectly normal if I wanted kids, but not if I don't want kids.
And there are people my age and younger that have babies. They don't have much life experience either. And for them, it's too late to decide they don't want kids. What a shame.
If people wait until they obtain life experience to decide they don't want kids, they might already have kids at that point.
It's good that I know at a young age I don't want kids so I can dedicate my life to making sure I never have kids.
My parents had me at 24. They were out of college, but other than that they didn't have a whole lot more life experience than I do now.
By the way, I've left home. I live 2,000 miles away from my parents. They pay for me, but that's not the point. The point is I left home.
And I have enough life experience to know kids don't fit into the lifestyle I want. Why is this so hard for you to understand?
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