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Just a thought, although I have no actual experience to speak of, myself: maybe have him get a prescription for Viagra or Cialis?
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Originally Posted by jenna123
I am 18 years younger than my husband. I am very attractive with a beautiful face, huge chest, small waist, and I am very sweet. My husband is 52 and does not seem to have the desire to have sex with me. I started out taking him by the hand and explaining why sex is a very important part of marriage and i feel we need to have more of it because it brings us closer together and It fills a need we have. He said he felt the same way. We have sex for a few weeks then back to 1 or 2 times a week. I have had the same conversation 3 or 4 timeswith the same result. Now I am at the point where I just complain about not having enough sex. I have suggested weekend away to spice things up. He says ok but never follows through. Also when we have sex i am in charge of positions, outfits,anything to make it exciting. He told me about a year ago he was going to be tested for low t but he did not follow through. I love my husband and want to have a good sex live with him. My question is are there other people in the same situation and how do you deal with it?
Exactly what it is, my personal opinion. People do as they please.
Yes, but you might feel different at 52. A beautiful 34-yr-old in her prime?
Sorry Jenna. I read where you said if you didn't initiate, he wouldn't either. Maybe it's also that he's tired. Does he work long hours or have a lot of responsibilities? That and the meds cause mine problems too so I read up on it. The advice I got was try not to take it personal or make him feel bad about it. He may be having issues with this too. Again, he's 52 with a beautiful young wife! I'm sure it can't be doing anything for his ego knowing he can't satisfy his woman.
Please realize that once or twice per week is about average for married people, and not bad for those in their 50s. Half the married people would probably love to get lucky once or twice a week. That doesn't mean much if you want it more often, but it might be some consolation. I don't think divorce, as suggested by one poster, should be a consideration.
Understand too, that Viagra and Cialis do nothing for libido. Zilch. That's not what they do. Low testosterone zaps it. He should be checked for that before anything else. It's a simple blood test, and if it's low it can be corrected.
You said he works and does household duties. Exhaustion is a libido killer too. If you can work playtime into the morning hours you might have better luck. And stress is a killer. If he's bothered by something at work, household finances, pressures, etc., it can be difficult to enjoy the finer things in life.
Did you know they asked elementary schoolers, what was "old" in their opinion? They said, anyone over 20 was too old.
The notion of "old" moves as you age. At 30, it's 50. At 50, it's 80. At 80... you get it.
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